Starting again advice... I need somewhere to go to uncoil for a while

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I am leaving him as I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that what he has done is not my fault, and I won't be able to forgive him as he has been unwilling to seek help or show real remorse. It is effecting my health.

I have a little money saved and an ok paying job but not enough to live alone. I am late 30s (not married, no dc, and a long way from family). I think I am going to have to live in a house-share. Has anyone else had to do this at this age?

I am worried about coping with the emotions and anxiety I know the break-up will leave me with whilst living under the gaze of unsuspecting strangers. I know I'll be okay in a few months but I'd prefer to do my 'falling-apart' phase on my own if that makes sense. Any advice? I have some great friends but not anyone close by that I can live with (they have all got their own situations to deal with)....

How did you cope?

I did it after I got divorced, it was fine. Older house shares tend not to be like student houses. I sat in my room, went to work, met someone new, moved in with him and 8 years later we have a lovely DC. I also had some therapy o deal with my anxiety which really helped. It will be ok good luck in your new life!

Hi lovely

Think of it as a stepping stone, find yourself a nice comfy room somewhere and make yourself a nest. When my first marriage went boom and I lost everything, me and my young son ended up in a ho else's hostel.

It was pretty grim but when I shut the door on our little room I shut the world out, I was able to lick my wounds and take stock until I was rehoused and began the next phase of our life.

I'm now remarried for 5 yrs been with dh 10 in all, and knocking on 49 this year. Anythings possible op, but it's a stepping stone at a time. ")

Thanks both, and two happy endings too. My anxiety levels are already at the max. Every ounce in my body said it is was time to go, then as soon as I commit to it, everything does a 180 in the opposite direction. I wonder why my intuition betrays me so much. This is going to be a long ride!