A little background for me...
I'm married (7 years) with 3 children (6,4,2)
I've been unhappy for a long time, but I still don't know if I'm going right or wrong. I'm confused really and just can't see clear.
DH works very long hours and kids and I rarely see him much in the week. Often works from home at weekend so we never end up doing anything together. This is nothing new btw.
I'm a full time sahm and we moved after we married to London so he could be in a better position for work ect.
I really don't have friends or family anywhere close which is probably why I'm posting here.
The long hours have been an issue (I'm talking going out at 6.30 and back after 8, often 10pm) plus not engaging with us at weekends ect.) But I think the main issue is the lack of any emotional relationship.
DH can be very critical, he knows when to kick me when I'm down or offer sarcastic comments but I've put up a wall and just block it out now.
Sometimes I just think I'm maybe exaggerating or OTT and that I should just be grateful he keeps us materially well. He's on a good income and materially we're pretty good.
He's often given me days of silent treatment on end over trivial things but this past week for example just some stuff I feel a bit down about.
Last week I was on my period and he came into the bathroom after asking if I'd put the nappies out including my 'nappy'.
He had a big sulk yesterday as he'd had minced twice in a row (shepherds pie one night and Chilli the next) He had a go about that ad ten today went into a sulk because I'd bought a film off Amazon prime (his bank account is connected to the prime TV) for te kids to watch( £4.00) and has said he was changing the password. I felt really patronised and commented many married couples share bank accounts etc and I couldn't really see an issue and he said if we did, he'd go bankrupt!!
Obviously we don't share accounts. He gives me a 'home maintenance allowance' every month and I get all the food ect.
He'll often turn his nose up or make a face at what I've made for dinner or not even eat it at all just to make a point.
It's almost like he's digging at me. He'll comment on what I buy the kids to wear or how I dress them in a derogatory way or just about anything I do.
I'd spent ages doing the garden last week and he said he liked it before or tat he would have done it differently.
Anyway, This again is nothing new, it's years old and every so often I wonder if I'm just over sensitive or going mad.
I'm really tired and drained at the moment, I pretty much manage the kids single handedly (to my memory he has never bathed or put tem to bed as that is my job) which doesn't bother me too much but it's the digs on top that exhaust me.