Missing Him But Don't Know Why???

[hazel1910]

I have posted recently about my partner leaving me and how much of a B-Word his was.
The only problem is, I can't stop thinking about him all the time. I miss him being around even though he was an a-hole, even though he cheated on me, even though he was thinking of leaving up to 7 years ago (I found that out after he left!!!), even though the atmosphere at home is so much better without him.
What is wrong with me? It feels like a part of me is missing, and I can't see where I'm going.
I can't see myself with a new man in my life (I'm very shy), and I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. I feel so very, very lonely without him around. I miss him, but WHY???

Because being with an abusive asshole for so long has robbed you of your self esteem. You need to ride it out, it will get better.

Your lonely and in pain probably for a relationship that was never very good .
But it was still the end of relationship that you need to grieve .
write him a letter ( but don't send it) put down how you felt about him , how you feel now .
Be patient the pain will pass be kind to yourself and give yourself time .

And yes Spanish is right he has left you with no confidence and a very damaged self esteem
Take up kick boxing as a hobby your entitled to be bloody cross about it all

Know how you feel, I'm the same. I'm nearly 12 weeks on & I still miss him & wish he was here, even though I know he was completely wrong for me. I have no other suggestions other than to say the feeling isn't as bad as it was 12 weeks ago so I'm hoping another 12 weeks on things will be better still. But I think it's totally normal so don't beat yourself up about it. Good luck.

It does get better, I split from dh 5 months ago, the first 2 months were hard, I still see him a lot as he sees the dc's quite often, every time I see him I realise what a prick he is and I think 'thank god I no longer have to put up with him', the evenings are still lonely but I'm much happier without him and I'm re building my confidence and sorting my life out.

Don't be hard on yourself, everything your feeling is normal and it will get easier xx

Thanks everyone for being there xx with you I don't feel like I'm going so crazy xx