Thought my husband was a goodun'

[HotelNewHampshire]

Despite all our ups and downs, sticking together through the bad patches, for better or worse, blah blah blah, I really didn't think he would set up a match account, 14 minutes after sending me an email saying he loved me and wants to be a better person. According to match, he's "separated" and wants to "see what happens" with a new relationship. What a charmer. I'd been preparing to leave him and was on the cusp of going back after that email but this time I think enough is enough. It's just so disappointing isn't it?

So sorry this has happened in your relationship Hotel, you sound so resigned.

Of course the upside is that you sound so resigned. Sorry if that sounds flippant but it's far far better than feeling torn.

It is indeed, disappointing but onwards and upwards...you come across as resilient and I'm sure you'll get through this with your resolve. Wishing you well.

So sorry.

At least now things are crystal clear.

Thanks 2, probably won't feel as resigned in the cold light of day...

Small mercies for finding out now instead of later after you had got back with him.

IME you never really know anybody, just the face they want to show you and eventually their real self emerges.

He is a twat.

Hope your ok

How did you find out?

Have you split up though?

Sorry I meant had you split up before you found out your husband was on match?

Just remember this is great source of support when you need it and a great sounding board when you just want a rant

The cold light of day is a reality check but know that you know 'enough is enough'. It will get easier.

It's a valid point Very, and it's not always clear is it. 2 days ago after a big row he smashed a window and the neighbours called the police. He's been alternately contrite and angry and we agreed to talk again tomorrow after some space. The soppy email came through late last night and then the Match email. Sorry to drip feed, but it is a long long story. We've got 2 little boys and he treats it all like some kind of game. Anyway, as previous poster said, it is crystal clear now and I can go to see the solicitor knowing it's absolutely the right thing. Thanks all for posting this late/early!

Your disappointment will know no bounds, but you'll have the amusement value of telling him that now you are separated you can't wait to "see what happens" to him on match.com as you're thinking of joining yourself.

Lying fucker!! Enough is definitely enough of his duplicity.

How you feeling op?

I think it's pretty clear where his priorities are and you have email proof of that. Go get yourself decent solicitor.

So you'd only been split up for 2 days?! Yes I think you're right - he does sound like he's playing games with you.

Let him crack on with it.