I knew it

[OhHolyFuck]

He was cheating. 7 months apparently. I don't want to go on, it hurts too much. How do you make it stop hurting?

It doesn't have to be family OP, I found support amongst friends but also acquaintances and sometimes even complete strangers. Is there a local MN group?

Also, don't forget about the professionals? Ring Samaritans, email Samaritans and definitely get to the doctor (what have you got to lose?).

God, how can be not be at least sorry? is he not human or something?? Anyone with a heart would feel sorry and guilty if they decided to leave. Did he say where the heck did he meet the OW? you said he was always at work and at home. But I can't imagine how can someone just switch from someone they cared for for years and had dc with - even if he doesn't want to stay, he can't just cut out all the good years, I bet it will all come flooding back and hit him later on. At least the guilt and sympathy.

So sorry this is happening on top of everything else. He's an out and out cunt. You may feel agony now, but trust me, it'll be him twisting in the wind in the future.
The kids will grow up eventually into adults with strong opinions of you both. These bastards forget that. When he's older and lonely ( it will happen ) the loving babies will be giving their full respect love and support to the honest, strong loyal mother who was there for them. I've watched this play out. This will pass. He can't ever start over without this hanging over him.

OHF how devaststating for you
You have had so much happen to you in such a short space of time. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby and on top of everything else.
Please seek some help and talk to your GP. Have you a friend who can support you?
You will heal, but it will take time.
To say you oh is a complete and utter shit is an understatement.
Please take care of yourself and your dc's and get some help.

So sorry, OP.

Please take care of urself.

n n xxx

I'll make a doctors appointment in the morning- already started on antidepressants and sleeping tablets so not sure what they could do though.
She's from the destiny game online, on ps4.
I'm tired and my head is pounding.
Tell me what I do next?

Wake up every morning, take a deep breath, have a shower and get on with your day.
Take your boys out. Do fun stuff at home. Think about how YOU want your future to look.
There is no easy fix OP you will just slowly start to live again. This man betrayed you when you needed him most. He is not a good man.

Get as much rl support around you as you can.

Remember that this is the worst you will feel. Everyday is a step closer to rebuilding your life and finding happiness again. You have your boys, take comfort in them (even though you want to crawl into a ball and cry).

You have a lot to mourn right now. I can't imagine how awful you feel. I wish I could offer you real life support.

What a pair of losers on their bloody games consoles in their fantasy worlds. How old are they? 12? Pathetic!

OHF just get through each day, an hour at a time. Get instant food delivered from a supermarket & just get through each day.
He is at fault, not you; you loved and trusted, he lied and deceived his partner and children.
Tomorrow, or as soon as you can:-
1 Get the children's passports locked safely away, or apply for them with your parental signature & addressed to you, if they don't already have them, then lock them away.
2 Get any mortgage/rent contracts for a solicitor
3 Get as many financial details of Dhead' s that you can; information about assets, savings, salary, ISA' s, property, shares, anything that shows how much money he really has he'll soon be a poor, penniless chap, before you can say maintenance
4 safeguard your assets by locking information about your finances securely away.
5 Ask around for the best solicitor & book.a first, free, consultation appointment.
Do this as soon as you can, then raise a glass to the poor sucker who's got him now, she doesn't know what a loser she's buying into.
Sending much love & hugs. The B'stard doesn't deserve you

Tell you what to do next? Breathe, keep breathing, deep breaths into your stomach when you think of it.

And drink. Drink water, fill a glass at the sink and drink it down. Try to do that at least 5 times a day, more if you can. I know it's hard but these two things, breathing and fluids, well so the crippling headaches.

Eat small snacks like nuts, dried fruit, an apple, a banana, an egg, toast, weetabix - no/little preparation foods, rich in basic nutrients.

So sorry you are going through this op

*will stop