Does your dp tell you they love you?

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My DP isn't overly soppy and always tells me to stop being soft when I get soppy the other day he said I don't realise how much he loves me because he doesn't say it much but that he really does. Does anybody else have a DP like this and do you mind?

Multiple times a day. He is much more romantic and demonstrative than I am. I have had to loosen up a bit, but I admit he's brought out a much softer, more soppy side of me. I get flowers, chocolate and little presents quite often if he's out and about without me and thought I'd like something. I've definitely got a hidden. He frequently tells me he'd give me the world if he could. I'm more of a "here is your dinner, I quite enjoy your presence" kind of gal.

Never, and it makes me quite sad, because I am definitely a soppy sort. He used to say "I love you too" when I told him I loved him, but I wondered if he felt obliged to reply like that because he never initiated it. So I stopped saying it too and I doubt he's even noticed.

We do kiss every day, and he writes loving messages and says he loves me in cards for birthdays, etc. So I think he does love me rather than just being 'fond' of me. I just wish he was a bit more romantic.

Yes, lots of times, and always each night before we fall asleep. DH is very cuddly and affectionate.

Mine does tell me he loves me, yes. Usually when I'm in a mood because he's been a PITA about something irritating-yet-fairly-trivial. I know he does but I wish he'd be a bit more considerate as well.

Yes. We don't live together but he still manages to tell me every day.

And every morning I get a good morning message on Whatsapp plus I know he's thinking of me during the day if I get sent some kiss emojis when he's busy.

I was never this affectionate or received this kind of affection from my STBXH. It was a strange feeling but I love it. I feel completely adored.

It's also a strange thing for my DS to witness as I realise he's never seen me be like this in the last 10 years!!! Yesterday my DP was stroking my hair, completely unawares, whilst we were discussing something - DS had a fit of giggles. I'm glad though - I think DC need to see that you are happy and in love.

Yes. He is very affectionate. Never leaves the house without goving a kiss. He loves cuddles etc. We spend 3 weeks apart every 3 weeks so things are always kept 'fresh'. Lol....

Actions are the key - easy to say I love you.

Nope, very rarely, in fact in 25yrs I can probably count the number of times it's been said by either of us on one hand. Actions speak far louder than words, in my opinion. If you feel loved, you are loved. I say it to the children very regularly though.

Mine isn't particularly verbal with how he feels, but he definitely shows it. He makes me cups of coffee when I ask, buys me random gifts from the shops (nothing expensive - just maybe my favourite bar of chocolate or a bottle of my favourite drink), and does things like run my bath for me after a long day of work (I have sciatica and my back can get really painful after a shift).

If I say I love him, he always says it back but he rarely says it first. It doesn't matter, though. I know he does love me and he treats me right, and that matters to me more than words.

yes we both do every day, verbally and by text - very affectionate couple - and in actions too of course, tea in bed, cuddles before sleep, send each other songs during the day if we hear one we like (that is not so frequent now but a big thing when we first got together, he's a dj so got much cooler taste than me)
always hold hands, always making eye contact. we have our huffs and puffs and alone time needed, we're just very good at getting on well and like to show how much we appreciate each other

My DH sounds like Archer26. We have been married 13 years and he has said ILY probably less than 13 times! However he shows me he loves me all the time and to me that is more important. Words do not mean much if unsupported by actions. I get my morning coffee in bed every day. He does most of the shopping and cooking. He does little things to show he cares but he just finds it difficult to verbally express. When he actually does find the words it is very special as it is such a rare thing!! I think if I heard it several times a day it would become less meaningful.

We say it fairly regularly. Sort of goes like this..

Sat on sofa watching GBBO (other BBC programs available for viewing)

Me - "Guess what?"

DP "What"

Me " I love you"

DP "I love you more".

It makes me tingle inside. Sorry for the sopfest.

if you mean it then I don't see the downside of saying it often!

No we don't say it to each other, have probably said it a handful of times since we've been a couple (ten years). I prefer it that way and we're not into PDAs either, although we're extremely tactile in private. He shows his feelings in ways that are important to me and I never have any doubt about them.