Can anyone help me understand this weird behaviour of STBXH? (not that it matters much now... )
He has always found it very difficult to get on with my family. Seems to feel he is being ignored or not paid attention to in the way he thinks he should be. e.g. - thinks my mum is patronising him - or deliberately cooking food she knows he dislikes - severe criticism of my mum wanting to help everyone (she doesn't always get it right, she has slight matriarch tendencies, but then who does?) - says unpleasant things (inc swearing) about my nephews & nieces inthehearingofmysisters_ - constantly criticising my family to me etc etc. At a family wedding I could see him working himself up because he thought our group should be seated in a more prominent / comfortable position, to the extent of shouting at some of the other family, creating a massive scene, and upsetting my DC and sisters. Fortunately my very kind and helpful nephews moved in and calmed him down eventually. Why would he feel the need to assert himself in this unpleasant way?
It is a bit like another recent thread on here about people who pride themselves on their bluntness / telling it like it is. He thinks I care more about being polite than 'telling the truth' (i.e. the 'truth' as he thinks it is). But I feel maybe there is some deep-seated insecurity there - but why?