Has anyone else just listened to the Ashley Maddison affair man's interview on PM with Eddie Mair?

[AyeAmarok]

It's basically a perfect insight into how these men justify and rationalise what they are doing.

It was about 10-15 minutes long. Will be on Radio 4 iPlayer soon I'm sure.

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

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[WallyBantersJunkBox]

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Sorry first link didn't work.

[spudlike1]

Yes I heard it
he said he's good at being alone ha ha ha ..unlike his wife who isn't coping very well ??
How will his children act towards him I wonder ?
What happens when the glowing/ loved up bit wears off with his mistress
all very sad

[Wando]

he comes across as a right royal tit - very shallow.

[howtorebuild]

Meh, people who cheat have issues which includes blaming current and ex partners for their bad behaviour.

[ProjectPerfect]

wally I watched the first couple of mind of his apology and just couldn't get past the fixed looked on his DWs face.

Oh and the fact it is all apparently ok cos God has forgiven him. Why don't these poor women run a mile?!

[ForalltheSaints]

I have listened to the interview.

In general I find the leaking of information to be bad, unless laws are being broken or people such as MPs are up to no good. This leak leaves me with the feelings of sympathy for those who will find out their loved ones have signed up, or anyone whose account has genuinely been hacked. For those who signed up, serves you right.

Unfortunately the real winners will be the legal profession when divorce proceedings start.

[HelenaDove]

Ive been very overweight Ive lost 10 stone. But ive been left with a by product. Some loose skin.

Now even if she lost weight id bet my arse (although there is less of it now) that he would moan about whatever loose skin she might have ended up with. In other words the twunt would have found fault with something else.

Its made made too easy to blame this sort of thing on a womans weight because of societys expectations of women.

The new partner had better not get ill or need to take steroids because he will use that as an excuse to do the same thing again.

[HelenaDove]

I havent seen any pics of her btw Im just trying to point out that weight is nothing to do with it.

[LikeABadSethRogenMovie]

I feel a bit sorry for the YouTube couple. It's their past and really none of anyone else's business.

[LikeABadSethRogenMovie]

Actually, I take that back. I've only just realized who they are. The Christian you tubers who make a living being wholesome?

[AyeAmarok]

But it's an example of why you shouldn't proclaim to the world how much of a wonderful partner you are, to as big an audience as the internet, when you're actually a cheating See You Next Tuesday, as you'll look like a total prick when it all comes out.

And more importantly, you'll make an even bigger fool of your wife, the person you're supposed to love.

[AyeAmarok]

Although I don't know why I'm saying that, as I guess the point is that people who cheat like this have their partner, and their partner's feelings, so far down their list of priorities that it's irrelevant.

[JetLagOnFriday]

I know a few cases myself included where a cheating partner caused such a shock and grieve to his "fatter" wife that she lost a lot of weight from stress. Best diet pill in my experience.Now in my 50th I enjoy the best sex life ever...Yay

[Twunk]

Yay jetlag!

[Orrla]

That you tube couple are faking . So was their pregnancy test thing that went viral. They are just jumping on the bandwagon to stay relevant.

[sanfairyanne]

maillot that was absolutely hilarious i love how your mind works

[DadWasHere]

Here you are, begins at 39 mins 40 seconds

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b066d2gy

[DadWasHere]

It's a website for married people to arrange to meet and fuck but why can;t they do that at home?

Who do we like to fuck? I dont know about other people but I need to desire the person I want to have sex with and I need them to desire me, otherwise I find the sex empty and I would prefer masturbation. If you find desire for your life partner evaporating (or they for you) as a couple you have a huge problem. Love cannot overcome it directly; sure it can compensate for desire but its not a replacement for it. My wife put on a lot of weight, from size 12 when I met her to size 18 now. I have loved her for over 20 years but during that time I had to rebuild my sexuality to find a size 18 desirable and it was a difficult thing to do.

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

They aren't all just looking to "fuck".

I registered in this site to see if my STBXH was on there, as I found him on Adultfriendfinder.

I had no profile photo, and a brief description and was receiving 40+ emails a day.

When I read the profiles a lot of these guys are looking for some sort of second wife and a mistress experience. They were offering all sorts of things.

It became quite fascinating to be on there tbh. Seedy, but fascinating.

[itaintmebabe]

I agree with Wally, it's a fascinating site with fascinating people.

[HelenaDove]

DadWasHere If she dieted and was left with loose skin as a result would that be just as bad or better for you desire wise. Im honestly not being facetious. Ive gone from a size 28 down to a 14 myself so it makes me curious.

[DadWasHere]

HelenaDove I have no personal experience with anything like that, I cant extrapolate how I might think. As I love her I want her to be healthy so I want her to lose weight. Having carried too much weight for years has damaged her knees and would have done similar less obvious things to her hip joints and spine.

In terms of human desire I know a few things in general: Some people are more flexible in what they can desire than others. Secondly almost everyone is capable of moving what they can find desirable if they feel motivated and able to change how they think about it, but its difficult changing your own psychology. Thirdly, however you look like, there is someone out there who will not only accept how you look but enjoy it. But it requires finding that person while accepting yourself as being worthy of desire. Nobody can ever easily come along and see someone as being fundamentally more desirable than the person sees themselves, it creates an internal dissonance between what the person wants and what they believe.

[HelenaDove]

Ah i see. It sounds to me like you have been quite tactful. Losing weight is a monumental task though Its something someone has to be mentally and emotionally ready for.

[Iflyaway]

This whole Ashley whatever blow-out online basically shows marriage and they lived happily ever after shit is outdated....

I know of about two married couples who I can't see ever divorcing in my social circle.

Sad but true.

I don't believe in "happy ever after" anyway... Enjoy what you've got while the going is good. And then. Move on. Without fighting and making the children the victims of it.