This is my first post on mumsnet so please bear with me if I'm not abbreviating correctly etc 
. I am just looking for some advice on the behavior of my fiance.
A little background: we are from the same town in the north of England (families live within miles of each other), however he has been based in the South East of England for 7yrs. We got together 2 and a half years ago. Him living down there me living up north. After 18 months of only seeing each other at weekends I agreed to move down south and we got a house together. I moved away from the house I grew up in, the family I am very close to, the friends I cherish, my job and the only town I have ever known to live hundreds of miles away and him be the only person I know. I moved on the premise that it was temporary for two years. I had just finished my degree with a view to train as a secondary school teacher, however due to external circumstances I will have to wait till we move back up north until I can complete the training.
Anyway, the behaviour that is concerning me seems to have been creeping up for a while since I moved. I have always been a very social person who love, love, loves being with friends and making new ones. Unfortunately this hasn't happened since I moved down here, due to the type of job I'm in I haven't made any friends, meaning my fiance is the only person I know and speak to down here, aside from colleagues. This alone makes me feel sad and I miss home desperately, just the simple action of speaking to a friend is a rare treat.
I have a friend who I have known for 6 years who until before I moved I was very close to, now I daren't speak to him and risk my fiance kicking up the biggest fuss and absolutely slating him, which my fiance blames on the fact that i dated my friend for around 6 months, it didnt work out, we stayed very close friends 100% platonic. It's now a case where I barely speak to someone who is one of my closest friends. Said friend and I had concert tickets in June this year, the day before my fiance accused me of lying about the tickets, scheming with my friend behind his back and only caring about my friends. Reducing me to tears.
That isnt the first time he has done it, it being any time I try to see friends without him he causes a huge argument, so much so I end up in tears with him shouting at me about unrelated things, consistencies include him telling me I don't care, that he is so hard done by and stressed because of what I'm doing, that all I care about is my friends, bearing in mind that it's now getting to the point where I only see friends every few months now and he makes such a fuss every time that I'm on eggshells and nervous just to simply say I want to see my friends. He requires all my attention, all of the time.
In the arguments he punches the bed or the door frames, but never when I'm in the room. If I try to tell him I'm down or homesick or lonely he always tells me not to say it because he feels bad. I never blame him for how I feel he blames himself then projects it on me. I have so many things I could blame him for; no family or friends around, career on hold, working in a job I hate, but i never do. He is also often away for work throughout the week meaning I am totally alone mon-fri and I never ever complain. My Nan died recently too which has been tough and because of work I could only go back for one day for of the funeral so have had to grieve down here on my own. Can't say he hasn't been supportive with that because he has.
Every time these arguments occur, they always end one of two ways - him being upset (I'm going away this weekend for a friends birthday hence him reducing me to tears last night and prompting this post today, and he actually said to me that I would 'come back to find him hanging' and that he 'might as well plan his funeral' and that I am 'leaving him' and don't care) after he's been upset he apologises and says he doesnt know what is up with him, and he is so stressed, and he doesnt know why his moods are so bad etc. Or he ends the argument by telling me I need to make a decision on the future (i.e. whether I move back up north and away from him).
I don't know if maybe I am overreacting I was just looking for some advice if anyone has experienced the same thing. I understand if no one has actually made it this far down the post but thanks if anyone did