Hi, I have witnessed the awesome power of the MN relationship board over the years, never thought I would have to ask for help.
I am assuming you are thinking that I am asking for myself by the title, that's fine, either way your advice is appreciated, although the advice is genuinely for my friend.
I advised her the last time I spoke to her that her new partner was throwing up red flags (abusive language and demanding just a few weeks in to their relationship) but she swatted my concerns aside.
for various reasons we haven't spoken for a few weeks, but I have just got off the phone to her, and I am genuinely concerned for her.
This guy is a totally controlling cocklodger, she agrees that she needs to get out of the relationship, but is scared to do so as he has threatened her and her pets with violence.
I need practical advice please, firstly although she owns her own home, she wants to leave and needs her two large dogs and a cat taken care of short term until he is off the scene.
Secondly, the actual throwing him out. As I have said it is her home but she is genuinely scared of him. He has been monitoring her phone calls, gaslighting her and has physically abused her.
She ended our call with 'I can hear him pulling up, I need to make sure the phone is in the cradle as he left it.'
There are no DC involved and she doesn't have family she can turn to. All advice gratefully received, thank you for reading this far.