Posted this in aibu last week and got some good feedback but since then, her dh has completely ignored my friend's attempts to talk about/solve the problem and would like some feedback-I told her I posted the thread. I am afraid that by ignoring it he's made her think it's gone away..
My friend, mum of two toddler DC, told me today that she's finding things stressful at home. I didn't think much of it, lots of people have stressful times and with two small ones etc. She then mentioned that in the last year her DH has kicked a hole in a door, dented a metal bin with a kick and thrown one of her DC's plastic forks in anger, either because of her or the DC.
She has admitted to being very pass remarkable and has tried to lay off on snippy comments but she said discipline is very often shouting loudly at DC, at which they often lash out, followed by storming off and silence (to her). She said it's stressful but didn't seem to think it was remarkable. Am I right in thinking it sounds like he is overly stressed/angry? When she tries to follow up with a discussion he refuses to talk about it.
She's also since told me that he can be very ratty and annoyed in general-answering her and her dc's calling his name with a really cross 'What?' for no reason. I wonder if it's stress rather than anger that's the problem.