Despite the title I'm hoping this will be a positive post.
I've posted on here about finding a text from my husband to our neighbour which gave me the impression that they might be having an affair.
It's a year today since I saw that text. Shocked and devastated didn't even begin to cover it. I thought I had a happy marriage to a lovely man and he had never given me any reason to doubt him. I spent ages trying to convince myself that he couldn't be having an affair and that it was just banter.
To my devastation my worst fears were proved correct. I also found out that he had lied to me throughout our whole relationship and he had cheated on me for most of our marriage with a string of women.
I ended my marriage last December and I was in bits. All those people on here who told me that things would get better I didn't believe them. I didn't think I would ever feel anything but sadness and hurt. But you know they were right.
I am still hurting, it is still hard and I am genuinely distraught that I will soon be divorced. But I do laugh, I do smile and I do look forward to some things. My life isn't as bad as I thought it would be and I am happy that I am no longer sharing my life with a lying cheat. I am worth more than that.
So to anyone reading who is in the early stages of a similar situation I promise you it will get better even though it feels like it never will. I never thought I would end up in the situation I did but I am still here and slowly piecing my life together again.
I don't know where I would be without all the help, support and advice I have had on here and I have got to know some of the most kindest, thoughtful and fantastic people through this site many of whom have gone through this heartbreak.
Thank you so much to everyone for all of their support and insight which has been a huge part of me getting to where I am now.