Help me understand my friend's situation

[AmIJustJaded]

I'm irritated at my friend. He met a guy in a gay dating site last week. Guy's 25. He's 36. Guy says he's still not over his ex and the ex asks money from him (why the f would he tell him that???)

They had sex. Guy tells him he doesn't really do that (have sex on the first date), just with him. Friend felt special. Had sex two more times after within that week. Then guy tells him he's going to be too busy at work and can't "take care" of him anymore. He asked, what do you mean by take care? He said, can't talk, chat and that he's afraid he will get attached to my friend because he will only hurt my friend.

And now he's acting like they have known each other more than a week. And he's wondering why guy said he can't take care of him, he's not asking to be taken care of. And that he can't blame the guy because he's not over his ex yet. Blah blah.

Guy texted him last night, said I miss you. But didn't ask him to meet.

Now friend is wondering why he said he missed him.

Oh, and I'm irritated because when I tell him he shouldn't really be putting too much weight on the guy's words but should be looking at his actions instead, he says guy isn't like that, he won't play him, etc.

Your friend is at best naive. Guy was looking for sex, simple as that.

He will lead him on for a while then start asking for money to pay off horrible ex or some other sob story. Your friend is being used and possibly scammed in the future. He needs to delete the guys number. Now.

I hope it does not happen. He says he's in love with him. I know I can't force him to do, or not to do what he wants to do, but I really hope I am wrong that this guy is just gonna string him along and use him for sex (and/or money) whenever he feels like it then disregard him when he doesn't.

He says he's in love with the guy he met online last week?
Distance yourself. He's not an innocent here, he's running headfirst into trouble with his eyes wide open.

Last week and 'he's in luuurrrve'!!???
He needs to grow up.
He needs to block this bloke from everything and get out and about and find someone worthy of him.
Crickey - all this in a week.
Life is way to feckin' short for this kind of drama and shite!
I can only assumes he thrives on the drama drama drama.
If that is the case then just leave him to it.

He seems to really put this guy on a pedestal. He said he's cute, intelligent, sweet...but doesn't see how guy basically said (well I interpreted what he said as) hey I don't want to bother dating you because it's too much work but I want to keep that door open in case i want a b*j**. (

I don't think whatever you say you are going to change his mind. Just be there to pick up the pieces.