What is ok to not say?

[CatMilkMan]

I saw a thread either yesterday or the day before about things found on your other halfs phone, I looked at the websites on my own phone and my DP probably wouldn't know what half of it meant.

Do i just randomly tell her and try to explain or what? It's business and private but she just doesn't have a clue and as far as she has told me doesn't care.
Should I try to explain ASAP or not and maybe she will check my phone or maybe she won't.
I really don't want her to check my phone, see some weird shit and presume I'm cheating.
I'm not sure what I'm asking but fuck, I'm not cheating on her.

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!

I'm not entirely sure.

DP doesn't appear to care about anything outside the UK , should I tell her anyway or leave her in her happy ignorance? Should I push it on to her? Or let her decide what she knows?

wtf are you on about?

leave her ignorant of what ??

you're funny.

Now, what's the encryption password?!

So basically, You have visited dodgy sites on your phone (dating sites? tinder? porn?) and you want to know how to clear your history on the off chance that your partner checks your phone. At the moment she is happily ignorant you say, but you also say you are not cheating!? OF What is it that she's happily ignorant?

My DP wouldn't give a shit about my messages but they are important.just not to her. Maybe I'm making a mistake.

What are you worried about?

I feel like I'm going crazy, i haven't cheated and she knows she can check everything just not my mobile which is the point.

You know that part in Finding Nemo when those fish are in the tank and one of them is called Deb and she talks to another fish all the time named Flo who is actually not another fish but Deb's reflection in the glass?

This feels like that.

Do you thinks he will check your phone? Does she trust you?

Maybe you are going crazy catmilkman. Your problem here seems to be that somebody may discover something that hasn't happened.

Um. What? Guess it depends what websites you've been on.

This sounds dodgy.

What kind of 'wierd shit' are you talking about? If its nothing dodgy what's the problem?

I think if you can't imagine explaining the contents of your phone to your DP without the conversation ending in suspicion, anger or upset, then you know you're doing something dodgy.

If my DH looked through my phone, I'd be embarrassed, possibly ashamed, and slightly humiliated my search history reads like Bridget Jones's diary but not concerned that he'd think I was cheating.

Weird not wierd

incomprehensible, sorry

CatMilkMan, just spit it out will you?
Anonymous site, you know.

Hang on. Have you googled a Happy Ending massage parlour or similar, because of a thread? I'd just delete your history, if that's the case. My search history would be pretty colourful if I left every MN inspired search for all to see.