Do I move out of marital home or is that a bad idea?

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Husband has told me a few times over the past week that he thinks washouts break up.

Long story short, he is saying I need to leave and move in with parents (I'm just recently unemployed) and he should stay in the house because he can afford it

Should I move out?

Thank you for all the replies.
I had hoped to come back and update sooner but had trouble logging in.

So 2 weeks ago I told him that I had made the decision and I was leaving.
I stayed in the spare room that night and packed up all the things I would need for until the house is sold and moved into my parents house the next day.

I then went on holiday within the UK with my mum and sister.
I thought it was for the best to get away but I felt like i was bringing everyone down and I wanted to leave.
I stayed at the request of mum and had a miserable time feeling very alone.

2 weeks on and no improvement.
I feel deflated , lost, anxious and a failure and judged.

Mum and dad want me to try harder at my marriage and not having their support is driving me insane when I am living under their roof.

They are talking to me as if they think I will be alone forever and will never be able to afford to live on my own so that they will be stuck with me.

They have also told me that they will not be able to house my dog so he will need to be rehomed which I am terribly sad about.

I do not miss him, but the thought of giving up on my beautiful house, my lovely dog and an easy life money wise are making me question things.

However, I know I can't take the easy route and go back to what I was so unhappy with just because of material possessions as I honest believe I would be happier being poor than with him.

He spoke to me at my parents house for 5 hours after I returned from the holiday.
He started off very angry and told me I never tried and that I was just depressed and should seek help before giving up. (Similar to what my parents think)

He then became very sad and apologetic and started to realise what it is he's done to make me do this at such a low point in my life.

I have no job
I am about to turn 30
I am living somewhere I can't see an exit to and I'm not comfortable here
I need to heal myself before plunging fully into a job search, but I have started networking and doing what I can when i can.

I have cried every single day.

Is there an end to this unhappiness?

The worst thing I fear now is that my parents are right, and that I won't ever be able to afford a place of my own.

I know I can get a job. The one I left was paying £25k a year, which was fine and I'm sure I can find something similar.
The house has appeoximaey £90-£100k equity meaning I may get £45k once it's split between the both of us.
I have my last paycheck to last me until another job comes up and having never dealt with the financial side of living before I am scared that i don't know how long it will last.

I have a empty credit card with £7k limit which I am very tempted to use to fund living for now until the proceeds from the house sale go through.
My parents are very strong in their feelings that I need to put this straight back into property again and not 'waste' it on rent.

My thoughts is that I am young. Many of my friends do not have a house of their own and many have only recently started settling down after years of studying or travelling.

Why can't I do that now? I could use a chunk of the money to go travelling for a bit.
Whilst keeping a set amount in savings for a future house purchase down the line.

To me this seems sensible.

Having spoken to my friends, they all agree with me, but I worry that my parents are right as they should have my best interests at heart.

What would you do?

If you get a new house, you'll need a job to get a mortgage.

Have you started applying for jobs? I would get yourself settled in employment asap. You can always leave it to go travelling if that's what you want to do when the money comes in from your house sale.

At the moment you're living in limbo land, waiting for your husband to sell the house, stuck with parents, no money.

A job will solve a lot of your problems I think.

Don't use the credit card. It's horrendous being in debt (I should know) so do what you can to avoid it.

From a 'financial advise' perspective, your parents are correct - that lump sum should go straight down as a deposit on a new property.

BUT it is YOUR money, and YOUR choice.

Travelling sounds fun once you have the money. That's coming from the house sale, did I get that right?

Have you applied for any jobs yet? How's that going? Sounds like your priority is to get some distance from your parents and your H, so that you can make your own decisions. Don't worry too much about right or wrong decisions - no decision is risk-free. You consider the risks and then decide. That's part of being an adult.

Of course your parents are "right" about getting another property but they are also being massively unsupportive of their daughter.
You weren't happy for at least 3 years. You're 30 of course you're not going to be on your own forever.
I think you need a job (whatever it is) and to get out of your parents' house asap as they're not helping at all. Do not give up your lovely dog.

Honestly, I prefer the sound of your dog to your parents.

First on the list, get a job to tide you over. Not just for the money, but to get you a routine, out of your living space and some fresh faces to chat to.

Then get that house sold. And grab a new life.

I dont know how I will ever be able to keep my dog. I would love to. He is everything to me, especially now more than ever.

However, when I do get a job and move out, I definitly wont be able to afford a place with a garden. I will also be working full time and wont be able to leave him on his own.

Can there be any other solution that I havent thought of yet regarding him?

He is very large, very bouncy, very young and excitable.