Dear friend is on her way to stay for a few nights/as long as she needs, 2 DC in tow. Her partner stayed out all night not responding to texts, transpires he was too drunk to come home. This follows a 2-3 month period of stress for friend mainly due to partners new friendship with OW. He was with OW last night. Additionally finances have been horrendous, both are self employed, friend is freelance writer trying to build up business having been focussed on raising DC, partner has only brought just over £1k into household YTD, despite predicting more to benefits agencies has not declared any adjustments and has acted like an entitled twat drinking and socialising to the detriment of the family, most family benefits paid into his account. Advised friend to take control of finances, she has contacted step change to have a plan put in place but not yet sorted benefits to be paid direct to her account. That will be number 1 on the list for me to assist with but practically can't see how she can arrange to live separately in the near future. They rent privately supported by housing benefit which obviously he is spending with his entitled lifestyle so presume rent arrears. My poor friend who is naturally slim says she is losing weight week on week, not just anxiety but with pure poverty. Oh, he's been minimising/gaslighting in recent months too...just as the cherry on top. What advice do you dear vipers have for her?