Can anyone advise me about what is reasonable to expect as a settlement? Brief history, 25 year marriage H left me about a year ago for OW. 3 kids but only 1 under 18. I have asked for the house (no mortgage) and half our savings and as on offset I won't claim on his pension.... I thought he had to maintain me as his ex spouse until such time as I remarried or co habited. but a friend has just said he only has to maintain me as long as our youngest is in education? We are going through mediation atm, and the mediator said if we can't come to an agreement without going through the Courts, the courts would claim I only needed a 2 bed house (despite fact one other child, over 18,still lives with me)I could work more despite teh fact i have worked part time throughout our married life, and I could get a better paid job! She also said if I co habit or marry again within 6 - 12 months of settlement he could reopen the claim! Meanwhile he gets 2 salaries (his and OW), a good payoff and no kids to live with! It hardly seems fair, that I didn't ask for this, none of it was my doing yet I seem to be the one who could be penalised? Any thoughts/advice would be much appreciated. How have others managed after settlement to survive financially?