Would you report this? My sister

[NobleLocks]

My sister and my mum have a awful relationship.
My mum is a wonderful woman who would help anyone with anything and I can't understand why this has happened.
I moved to the south of the UK around ten years ago with my family remaining up north.
Now my mum has retired she comes down to stay with us, we're by the beach.
It's lovely.

My sister doesn't like this and every time she Facebook stalks me through another persons Facebook and finds out my mum is here despite my privacy settings!

The text messages and Facebook messages start. They are awful, calling us every name under the sun and saying we should die etc. I'm a single parent so I get that thrown at me, why no man wants me etc.

She calls me a murderer and a baby killer after I had an abortion in my early twenties.

Mum has been her 5 days now and the messages are constant. I've tried everything, but it does hurt.

What concerns me most is that she's currently lost her grandchildren so foster care under ss care. I can't see how writing these things pm social media is going to reflect well.
Please help

You may have done that before Facebook changed its Privacy options, mindyourown15, but these are the options which exist today. Essentially all you can do is choose how much goes into your Inbox.

Your sister may feel that you are not being punished for your abortion whilst she, who had children, is now being punished by having them taken away from her. That's not really your problem.

when I go into settings it looks nothing like that - is that on the mobile app?

No, that's on the desktop. Although it looks pretty similar on the Android app?

I'm sorry but I totally, totally disagree with Shove who said I am not sure I have understood correctly, but has your sister had her kids taken away by social services? If so, I wouldn't do anything that could possibly make her life more difficult with the authorities right now.

YOU are not doing anything - SHE is. And if she's had her children taken away then the ones we should be concerned about here are the children. They are the victims, not her. The authorities responsible for their welfare need a full picture of their mother's behaviour so that they can best protect them.

She is abusing and harassing you. Call the police.

It is the sister's grandchildren, not her children, who have been taken into care according to the OP. Which still doesn't excuse her behaviour (although her behaviour may explain a lot).

You should be able to get the police to give her a harassment warning. May not help but may do.

YOU are being harassed and terrorised by another person.

This person does not have that right. NO-ONE does. Call 101 and get this reported today. What this woman is doing to you is illegal. The consequences of that illegal action are hers alone.

You have done nothing wrong, nothing illegal. She is doing wrong, AND. Breaking laws.

I'm glad to hear her children have been removed, they'll have a better chance in life without her.

I think the OP has clarified, Barbarian - although at the age of 40 the sister could be a grandmother she actually meant that it was her mum's grandchildren, i.e. the sister's children, who were being taken into care. shovetheholly asked and OP confirmed this was correct.

Thanks tripot. Even more reason to call the police then. She clearly needs help, and her children need to be kept safe until she gets it.

Thank you all

I'd like to clarify it is my sister grandchildren. Yes at 38

Good lord. No doubt she sees it, as you wrote in your OP, that she's lost her grandchildren to foster care - of course her child doesn't get a look in

Well, this is obviously a very vulnerable family but that doesn't excuse her actions. She needs to feel some consequences and hopefully get some mental health support (she's clearly not capable of asking for that herself).

We've all tried but she's refusing the help, hence the stage we are at; at one stage there were 3 grandchildren and she had special guardianship of one.

We are trying everything

I think it's time to stop trying and involve the police.

So hard isn't it, we're meant to be family!

Very very hard, my thoughts are with you.