I picked up my husbands phone accidentally last week and put it in my handbag. On my way to work he rang me and seemed really angry about me having the phone. Normally I would have a quick look at his whatsapp and texts. This time I had a better look and went through it all. He ad the tinder app. And when I looked there were a few messages from him to girls. No conversations as such but him obviously trying to start a conversation. One said "up for meeting for drinks and steamy fun".
To give some context I have always known that he is a flirt and has totally inappropriate text conversations etc with girls. A year ago he finally admitted to sexting one girl regularly when I was at work. He only admitted it because the girl told him she would show me the pictures. He admitted to meeting and kissing her on a couple of occasions. I have always felt it was significantly more than this. We seperated for a while although I continued to allow him to see our daughter on a daily basis. He was very contrite and begging forgiveness etc etc and in the end I took him back. He promised things would be different.
I was actually unsurprised about finding the tinder stuff - no hysterics etc but feel numb inside. I don't think he would have followed through with anything physical but it shows that he just can't stop doing these things. Not sure why I am posting but can't tell anyone in real life and would appreciate opinions.