Been asked on a date by a much younger man

[nashandra]

I have been talking to a guy on a dating site who ticks a lot of boxes for me. We have been chatting for about a month. Very good looking, nice and seems mature for his age. He has said he is looking for a LTR and doesn't really want a casual fling. The thing is, he is 24 and I'm 40. He is by far the youngest man to have messaged me online. I am also definitely not a cougar as I've never been with someone so much younger. WWYD? Anyone on MN had a proper relationship with a (much) YM?

I am older than you and got messages from very young men all the time. No idea why.

Your first mistake is messaging for so long before meeting.

I'm 34 and my DP is 24. We have been together for almost four years. It can work.

I saw someone (briefly) who was 8 years younger than me. It just didn't work, although I'd say emotionally he was a decade behind his 27 years.

I don't know why but the men in their 20's who have propositioned me all seem a bit of a mess (no job or house and awful communication skills/sex) but I think I might have just met alot of frogs. If you want to go for it OP just be cautious.

I'm 40. I recently got chatted up by a man in his early 20s who thought I was late 20s (it was dark!)

There is just no way I would even consider it!

When I was OD I was contacted by a few men who were 20something. Some of them were my type too, but i didn't trust their motives either.

What on earth would he see in me when there are so many young attractive 20 something women around!

Some women in their 40s develop a high sex drive (there is a thread about this elsewhere) so there could be a good match there with a younger man.

15 years is a large age gap, but few people question it when it is the man that is older.

"Some women in their 40s develop a high sex drive"

Develop? Some women in their 40s have always had it!

Sure, BitOutOfPractice, I had forgotten that! I was thinking of the thread where several posters mentioned that it had developed later.

Mine's still firing on all cylinder random!

I always found that the 20-somethings who messaged me didn't seem to own a shirt - or a top of any kind!

BOOP

So true!

But then I like a man who is comfortable in his own body after 11 years with the lights off

I've always had it and I'm well into my forties. From chatting to my single friends, they all get targeted by young guys, it's the Graduate fantasy isn't it.

If you want sex then go for it but if you're after a "proper relationship" look elsewhere.

It wouldn't be for me.

For me I think it would be one of those things where the theory was better than the practice. I'd just be worried that it was the same for him as well.

Whilst it can work, I think the chances are slim of it being 'forever'. Some younger guys love older women, purely from a sexual point if view.

Been there, done that..I remember my uni days very fondly!!