How to react to threads

[DorothyL]

My brother is losing the plot at the mo - messy break up in which I'm more inclined to be on his wife's side. Db very angry about that, and last night we had a lengthy row via whatsapp in which he repeatedly said "you'll suffer the consequences if you do that" "you wait what I'll do" etc

Despite me asking he wouldn't say what he'd do. Would you just ignore or would you do sometging? Dh is not impressed but I'm not sure getting him involved would help.

Well I certainly think his wife is well shot of him!

You've said your piece, it seems, with the whatsapp row. So I'd just walk away from it now. Block him. If he says more, ignore it. If he asks why you're ignoring him, consider telling him you won't speak to someone who threatens you. Then don't.

I'd also screenshot everything.

Even if it was a family member I would want my DW to tell me if anyone threatening her.

Why is he threatening you?

He's angry that my mum and me are siding with my sil and says to stop or....

You are siding with your soon to be ex SIL?

I obviously don't know anything about the circumstances because you haven't said much but I would think twice before siding with your SIL as your actions could have long term consequences. Your DB is obviously very angry, what if he never talks to you again?

If I were you I'd stay out of it.

Can you not just keep out of it?
I don't think it's helpful when friends and relatives start taking sides in a marital breakup

Youre siding with your stbxsil for presumably a good and bery serious reason, as otherwise you shouldnt be involved at all, and your brother is reacting with so much anger he is threatening you. Wow. First thing i would do is tell my mum, who would bollock my brother. My dad i cant imagine what he'd do! It must be pretty frightening but i think you need to stop engaging.

He never talks to me anyway... And with regards to taking sides, I don't volunteer my views but if I get asked I will say what I think. He started an affair while my sil was battling depression, since he left my sil has struggled massively and my mum has picked up the pieces, I certainly can't condone that and struggle to stay neutral!

If he can behave like this towards his dsis, I dread to think what he was like with his dw.

Are there dc involved?

Yes, three.