How can he move on so quickly?

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I am having the most difficult time coping. Have no one in real life to talk to.

Basically split up with ex 7 week ago. He started seeing someone else 3week later. It was a shock, I thought we were in love and would always be together. Up until say the beginning of June he was still very loving and was saying how scared he was of losing me. We did have our arguments but I thought he loved me. I thought he would miss me and we'd be back together by now but he seems besotted with the new girl. Tells her all the things he told me.

The pain is unbearable and I'm not coping

I really appreciate everyone who commented and offered advice. I do think no contact is probably best. It's just hard.

Yes, it's hard to go NC. But just like an amputation, sometimes it's just necessary.

You say you are no longer in touch with old friends? I think you need to realize that he purposely isolated you from them. Classic abusive behaviour and probably because they saw through him to begin with!

I know you're afraid of being hurt, but please reach out to them. Tell them the truth about him and that you now realize that you were wrong to push them away and that you are sorry. I'm sure there will be at least one who will welcome you back.

Get back in touch with your friends!
Similar thing happened to me a few years ago... I was the same and didnt feel like I could. As it turned out I saw one of them in the supermarket and she invited me for coffee. I went and thank god I did. The group really rallied round and helped me get back on my feet.
Turns out they knew he was a complete knob and were waiting for me to see sense :/
It took three years and two infidelities but I got there in the end :)

Don't leave the door open for him. Some Men like nothing better than knowing more than one women are chasing them. Block them out of your life and get on with yours.