How to save a relationship? What do you suggest??

[Yvemen]

Hiya,

I'll make it quick. Me and my OH have had a difficult few months to say the least.

Weve kind of forgotten how to be friends like we used to be and don't show we care and love each other enough which has made us feel quite numb to each other.

Also, we've been arguing alot over the little things and there's been a power struggle and to we've just changed alot as people.

We lost ourselves in our relationship.

We spoke about all of it on the weekend and we feel great because we were brutally honest and got alot off our chests. We have both admitted to each other that we have both considered just breaking up, but twenty think it's worth giving it a shot and really trying to make it work because we haven't forgotten why we love each other and we'd be really distraught if we split.

Sooo...my question to you guys is, what do you suggest are good things to help mend a broken relationship?

Thanks!

I would start by pledging to do one nice thing each day for each other.

EG person who's home first runs a bath for the other one.
Person who's home last brings dinner with them.
Massage.
Buy the other their favourite bar of chocolate/sandwich/crisps/etc
Just making a cup of tea!

Get a babysitter if needed and spend some time doing some of the common interests that brought you together in the first place. At least once a month ( or even weekly).

I guess it's the little things right. I will try them all, thanks x

Counselling, so you don't repeat the patterns of behaviour that created the issues.

Communication.

Spend time together.