Hello
I am being so silly. To cut a long story short firstly I have namechanged to protect identity. I work in a large company full of people of all ages, I am divorced and have one DD at university. I am 48 and if I say so myself in fairly good shape just not been that much around of interest lately. Romantically I mean. Anyway to cut long story short I was asked out by a guy from another department, I know him a little as he sometimes joins the rest of the office for drinks. He is lovely, a goodlooking intelligent guy if a little shy. I dont think he was ever married, works long hours etc. I was a bit surprised and tbh immensely genuinely flattered when he asked me in a quiet moment. He was utterly gentlemanly about it also when I said no thanks as tbh he is a bit young for me-37-and supposedly may be moving abroad soon. He didnt seem upset at all he just shyly asked me not to tell anyone else as if I would as hed prefer to keep it quiet. I didnt say anything. This was last Fri. I only see him on average once a week if that so not unusual I have not yet. I feel so so so bad and guilty now. I asked a man who works in his department without mentioning the conversation we had if he was ok, and he said he seemed a bit quiet but he is always fairly quiet imo. I dont know why I feel this way its just I feel I have hurt his feelings and he is not exactly a Lothario type to the extent there are rumours he is gay.. Have I destroyed his life for good. It must be so so hard for a shy guy to ask someone out, I cant exactly seek him out now and say btw you are lovely dont worry you will meet someone..has anyone else experienced this_