Hi there everyone, I need some advice please, I'm in a gay relationship with a women, I've been with her for nearly four years now, she has two children one dd 17 and ds 16 I have a ds 11, I have already been in an abusive relationship with my exh and I got out after 20 years of suffering, the relationship I'm in now is a lovely one most of the time, but my partner takes the side of her two children over me most of the time, her ds has autism and asbergers he is highly intelligent, he never shows any respect to me he speaks to me like dirt sometimes, but never to his mum, her dd is the same too, she speaks to me however she wants too, but if my ds dare speaks to her or her two children in that way he get shouted out by them all, my partners ds takes it upon himself to tell my ds off for petty stuff, gets him in trouble, I try not to make anything of it, my partner shouts at him and says well this is how I would of treated my children if they done that, and you have done the same to my two children ( when I haven't ) my friends have said that she is very strict with my ds, he has ADHD but he is a kind, loving gentle well mannered son, and lots of people have told me how proud I should be of him ( and I am very proud of him ) I feel that I have to stay with my partner as she is disabled and can hardly walk, when we are out she uses an electric wheelchair, she has got a heart of gold and would do anything for anybody, but it's the way she speaks to me and never believes what I say, her two children can never do any wrong, my friend said to me the other day...can you carry on living the way you are for the rest of your life, walking on eggshells, scared incase I say the wrong thing or my son does something wrong. Please help me with advice 
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