Hello,
I am new and not sure if this would be the right place to post this thread, please move if it's not in the right place.
My nan doesn't think before she speaks, then she finds excuses for what she has just said or tries to back track what she said by saying she could quite easily mean it x, y or z way but obviously people who know her this could be the case, however people who don't know her will take what she says at face value.
She upset me years ago because she has told friends of mine things which they didn't need to know/ I didn't want them to know and I told her this upset me dearly and my mum told her this too.
My main concern is in a couple of weeks time I have a major life event coming up and I am worried she will open her mouth without thinking and this could obviously effect my whole future.( I can't say what as this would mean explaining a little bit of my past and it's about whether I can trust her to not open her mouth and put me in it and ruin my future, not what the event is)
When we have been talking about this life event she has opened her mouth to me without thinking, saying x, y or z and I have been thinking and even told her if you say this at the time it will mess things up for my future big time.
This is when the excuses come up 'I could be meaning x, y or z, not a, b or c' but what she doesn't realise is this isn't how people at my life event will see it, they will see it as a, b or c'
Why can't she just think before she speaks and when I call her up on it, why can't she just accept what I am saying, apologise and not try and excuse what she has just said.
I'll be honest I am wondering whether I really want her there now just in case she does open her mouth and mess up my future. I have even told her straight if she opens her mouth about certain things I will never speak to her again. I have told her to keep her mouth shut and not say anything that others might take literally/ at face value
What can I do, please help.