What should I say to DH about this?

[ToFleaOrNotToFlea]

DH has been offered a job which means a long commute and he has been mulling it over for a while but has to make a decision by tomorrow.

He was about to go to the gym and before he did, had given me a lovely hug so all was good-but just as he was leaving he asked me what i thought about the job.

I asked him what his gut told him to start a conversation about it, as instinct is important and usually correct, but he flew off the handle and said I didn't care about it, just forget it - and slammed the door and went off out.

I tried to say hang on a minute, i do care - but he didn't listen or give me a chance to explain. Just went.

How to respond when he gets back?

sorry but its his decision if it doesn't negatively impact finances

if you say what a great idea go for it he can come back to you in a month and blame you for him being miserable i would never tell someone to take a job because of this

i once told an ex of mine to take a job we were desperate for money he hated it and blamed me totally

You can't say that just because you're a gut decision maker he should be too, that's not really how everyone works. Give him your full opinion and make the decision together, as it will affect your whole family.

DH doesn't travel the M25 but in winter his hours commute usually goes up by 20minutes. If weather is bad he's been known to stop off at a pub for his supper and try again later.

We don't live in the South east so I'd hate to think what winter would be like!

His current commute is 45 mins but no traffic as quiet country lanes.

We do not desperately need the extra money so I believe that his mental health is more important than the extra pennies. He is not the most patient of people and cannot cope with small situations so I worry this would be the death of him.

He would also blame me if i encouraged it and he hated it. It is right that it is his decision because if things stayed as they were we would be ok.

I hope that you and h are back in harmony with each other, and he is feeling more able to make his decision.

Hello all, thank you-he is handing in his notice today

Why is he leaving his job? Just say no to the new one and let the contract run down, surely?

So does he have a job now?

Dis he discuss handing in his notice?

Are WasThisOK and ToFlea the same poster?