Hey,
I'm going to try and keep this as brief as possible as I really just want to vent more than advice on everything!
Me and a guy met online. I'm 31, he's 23...massive age gap I know but it's me with more of a problem than he has. We met up first date, great time, lots of talking and getting to know each other. Second date, exactly the same really. Had a lot of fun. But we just went on walks and drives.
Third date last Tuesday, went for a meal and then went bowling and to play pool which was great. I had an excellent time, he did too. And we shared our first (and only) very brief one nanosecond kiss out in the rain that night. We met again on Saturday and went to a park and basically messed around kicking a football about, went on the beach and it was genuinely cool. I love physical activity so doing stuff like this is great.
Now to me at this point, him driving me back to my car, it's all going swimmingly well, we may even share another kiss here. But then we proceeded to talk ex's. Mainly because his ex was still programmed into his car speaker system when we were adding my phone to it. Then he mentioned how he thought if my ex came calling I'd get back with him. So I tried saying no, it's over blah blah. And it seems fine, we reach my car. I go to give him a cuddle and then kiss and he turns his head so I kissed his cheek! Cringe. It was honestly one of the most embarrassing moments of my life. I got back to my car and thumped the steering wheel at how stupid I had been. I said at that point, I'm never even contacting him again!!
That night I was going out drinking with some friends, and he knew this. So instead of being the person who texts twice a day, whilst I was out he text every two minutes and to be fair I was replying so I did enjoy it. But obviously I was still hugely embarrassed about the situation prior. I got drunk, called him and told him...and he responded with that it wasn't the right moment to kiss! How awful. It just made me feel terrible and like why should I even bother. After I got slightly annoyed, we spoke again in the taxi back and we both agreed (from what I remember) that we enjoy dating and we will see each other again.
All contact since Saturday night was initiated by him as I understood if he wanted to not date, that was fine. Then since yesterday he's gone silent! I text him just normal...asking about his day in reply to his last text. Text him today to see if he wants to go out at the weekend, and nothing! Worst part is he's read the message on WhatsApp ten minutes after I sent it and hasn't replied. So I feel like such a fool.
Usually I'm so good at dating but I've just got this situation all freaking wrong!! I don't think I need any advice, other than to man up and not to even attempt to contact him again unless he speaks to me...but I'm gutted I didn't even see it coming!!