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£3000 and counting

12 replies

Octopush13 · 04/08/2015 17:37

Anyone...don't let this put you off leaving a rotter.

My ex bullied, abused and cheated (sex with co-worker for 4 years). I kicked him out in March when I discovered- we'd been together 16 years. But today I got the penultimate solicitors bill. I've now spent £3000 in getting rid of him. There's still one bill left to cover the legal work in me buying his 50% of our (now my) flat. The last £1500 was because he wanted to go back and forth changing things in our separation agreement, that I wouldn't and didn't have to agree to.

I hate him SO much. Still...at least I'm shot of him.

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Anniegetyourgun · 04/08/2015 17:38

Cheap at the price, believe me.

goddessofsmallthings · 04/08/2015 18:03

Freedom is priceless and it's worth paying whatever it costs to acquire it.

By my calculations yours has cost you £187.50 for every year you spent enamoured enslaved by a rotter and maybe you should give consideration to putting 4 quid a week under the mattress in case you have to buy yourself out again.

It's not worth taking the risk of becoming embittered by hatred, honey. Congratulate yourself on being shot of him and leave it to karma to settle all debts.

moopymoodle · 04/08/2015 18:19

I'd say you got a bargain, as your free of him!

financialwizard · 04/08/2015 18:25

Was also going to say cheap for your freedom. I know it is a lot of money, but your sanity and wellbeing are worth so much more than that.

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Octopush13 · 04/08/2015 18:29

Feeling better...

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Northumberlandlass · 04/08/2015 18:32

Octo,
I cashed in the only savings I had to pay for separation agreement, solicitor advice, buying out of family home.
I am on the bones of my arse. But I am free. So are you. That is priceless!
I wish you happiness for the future!

ShebaShimmyShake · 04/08/2015 18:42

Arsewipe removal tax. Cheap at twice the price.

Cocalite · 04/08/2015 18:43

I know it's difficult at the moment but focus on the freedom!

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Octopush13 · 04/08/2015 19:10

Yup, on bones of arse. But the arse is looking darn fine I have to say. Freedom. Yes it is worth every penny and tear..

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Scarydinosaurs · 04/08/2015 19:13

I lost £1000s leaving my ex husband, he came off so well and still had the audacity to continue to ask for things that I had bought/had been given to me from my family.

Best money I ever lost. Life is so much better now.

sleepsoftly · 04/08/2015 19:59

According to page 17 of our local paper, you could have bought a second hand Vauxhall Corsa, 1400cc, 8 years old with 72,350 miles on the clock for £3,000.

Are you sure you spent the money wisely?

NumanoidNancy · 04/08/2015 21:11

Bargain I'd say. I'm three years down the line and £15,000 poorer and I still haven't managed to divorce my ex husband. It is astonishing how long these things can get dragged out for if someone really decides to be an arse.

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