H is a grumpy twat

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We have a rare child free night and instead of shagging the night away I am upstairs in bed fucked off with him for being a grumpy twat and ruining things. I said lets go out, he wanted to go to the gym. Fine. He went to the gym, I went swimming. Then I went to shop and made dinner. Sat down to watch a film - he starts asking me about when to get something delivered, I am watching film and drinking wine do not really listening, he is then sharp and shitty with me. Ruining film (who wants to cuddle up with someone who seems to resent them?) and ruining romantic evening. I want to sleep but am so

The last two times we have had had chance to go for lunch without the children, we have had a major argument instead. Empathising, Op.

You need to have a frank conversation; i would be fuming!

Do you get on normally 2and2? I was too tipsy to have a frank conversation last night (half a bottle). Will try today.

Perhaps it was unhelpful I posted what I did as things are more than a little stained at the moment. These snatched lunches, even if we had a baby in tow, used to be really important but four young children and him working away in the week is a rather tough combination in our relationship, at the minute. I feel lonely and tired and under-valued and he feel detached from our lives here, unloved and has all-sorts playing on his mind he thinks I am unable/unwilling to share. *sigh

I hope your conversation is/was more fruitful.

Good luck, thinking about you.

We used to be like this. I think we were bored without the children there and used to pick at each other. The pressure is on to have a good time when you know they're few and far between!

Thank you for posting. he apologised yesterday morning and we put it behind us to attend a family event in the eve - and actually had fun. I get v annoyed at him for 'ruining' any time alone we have together - e.g. If he's grumpy, short or complains about spending money. It's hard to know if it's him or me - I get so annoyed I find it hard to relax and get over it at the time. It's like it sours the whole thing.

If you don't make a point of how important it is for you it will come back again!