honey trap...good/bad/horrendous idea??

[Bloodyhellfire123]

DP and I have separated. He wants me to trust him again. His idea is he will prove himself to me whilst we're apart. I'm not sure....how would I know??
Do...honey trap?

of course not

I would make an appt with your GP and tell him/her you have been feeling anxious and paranoid to the point of potentially ruining relationships (if the last one was really blameless, this one is very far from that)

ask for talking therapy and see what they say

what's to lose ?

He told me that she had told him she liked him and she made a move and tried to kiss him, not a comforting peck on the cheek.#

Well he would say that, wouldn't he? He's a philandering commitment-phobe who's been toying with your emotions and, after 'proving' himself to you while you're apart by keeping his sexting well under wraps, he'll continue to press your buttons until you think you're going, or have gone, mad whereupon you'll split up again and... repeat ad infinitum.

Move along, honey, there's nothing worth seeing with the likes of him in your life.

Cheers chaps.

I think a lot of it is me...the last guy was not for me but he wasn't a cheat.
I guess this one has just added fuel to my slightly insane fire!

You do know that untrustworthy types will never admit to any more than the bare minimum of what they think you might be able to prove. This is not someone who naively allowed himself to get carried away with something he later bitterly regretted, but someone who has had kisses, messages and photo exchanges with various women. This is not one-off behaviour of an otherwise good partner and you are right not to trust him.

Bin him for good.