porn- !!

[herbidacious]

don't live with my partner, he left shortly after our dd arrived ( a sleep thing, yes i know selfish bastard but at least i don't have to listento him whine about being tired), we used to hav a good sex life but it stopped when i was pregnant, hasn't restarted, dd 5 months old, he told me he'd gone off sex so i was understanding and sympathetic, but now i've found a stack of porn dvd's at his house and he tells me he's not gone off sex, just intimate sex!! any one else come up against this or is he just messed up in the head?

he left to GET SOME SLEEP???? why on earth would you want to have sex with him when he is clearly a complete wanker?

sounds like you are better off without him.

wtf?

lets have sex

oh a baby?

shit no sleep?

think i'll leave get mi own place

....................shit she's still here - with a feckin kid now?!

plenty of messed up heads about it seems

Hello? He left you, you are not supposed to have sex with losers who leave you because THEIR child is keeping them awake at night. Porn is the least of your problems.

ok now feeling slightly (!!) belittled. you're a harsh lot out there. when i say 'left' it was a mutual decision that cos he works nights and i have two older kids it would be easier not to spend my days saying 'sshh' to everyone. we still had a good relationship, mutually supportive all that stuff. i guess maybe everyone else out there has fun being mutully knackered and snappy!

don't feel belittled, they are not criticising you, but your partner. It might have been a mutual decision but it would be nice for you to have a bit of support rather than him leaving you to look after the children on your own.
I think you need to talk to him and find out why he doesn't want intimate sex, it sounds very strange. You are livng apart you have a very young baby it sounds like you are drifting apart and need to talk about things and work at getting closer again if that is what you both want.