Men... who would have them?

[tammybear]

Unfortunately me

I love my dp, but I dont understand how his mind works sometimes

On Weds, I was feeling down and upset, and I am usually the type of person who bottles things up. But since being with him, I have learnt to tell him what is wrong with me eventually. These days I either tell him the day Im upset, or the day after.

Anyway, dp got paranoid that he was the reason why Im upset. I told him he wasnt, and that I would tell him on Thurs when I was feeling better. I rang him on Thurs but he didnt want to speak to me, and then made a big thing out of nothing. He started saying that he cant cope with my complications and that he wanted out of the relationship!!

I dont see why he couldnt have just waited til the next day. Its not like I was saying wait til next week. Or am I being stupid????

Ahh, poor Tammybear - I know where you are coming from, but these men are strange "creatures".

I can totally see your point of view...but I can also see a tiny bit of his. It sounds like he was genuinely concerned that it was him that had upset you and having to wait until he knew perhaps did his head in a bit?

His reaction seems a little excessive by saying he wants out, but I am sure that this is just a strong reaction to having to wait. I know myself that I would rather have things out in the open and discussed and dealt with rather than knowing it will happen tomorrow...maybe that's just me, but after years of not being able to air my thoughts with my soon to be xh, I just have to get it out there and sorted.

I am sure this will bring on a conversation about the way things are discussed in future, but either way you are not being stupid and it is just the way you deal with feeling down and upset. Thank goodness we are all different eh? There wouldn't be a need for MN if we weren't!

Maybe the paranoia was that bloody full moon again! (seriously!)