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Ending a long term relationship

8 replies

Beaverfeaver2 · 26/07/2015 21:38

I have been with my DH for 15 years since we were 15 years old.

There have always been ups and downs but for the past 6 months I have struggled withbmybferlinha for him and I no longer feel that I see him as y future.

He hasn't done anything wrong, I haut feel that it's time we are now talking about starting a family.

How do you tell someone you have been with for this long that you no longer feel the same ?
I don't want to get him

OP posts:

CalmYourselfTubbs · 26/07/2015 23:30

honesty is the best policy.

DragonsCanHop · 26/07/2015 23:56

30 with no children, just tell him you don't love him anymore and move out.

calm has nailed it.

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Beaverfeaver2 · 27/07/2015 07:05

Is it really as simple as that?
He will ask so many questions and I just don't haberdashery he answers and he will try to persuade me otherwise.
Also worries abut what amply will think of me

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Footle · 27/07/2015 07:09

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whooshbangprettycolours · 27/07/2015 07:10

You should talk to him

MaybeDoctor · 27/07/2015 07:10

You don't need his permission to end the relationship - all that you need is that it is no longer working for you.

TeenageMutantNinjaTurtle · 27/07/2015 07:11

Took me ages to break up with a long term partner once because I was worried about what the family would think. In the end, everyone was a bit surprised but then went about their own business. It certainly wasn't the big deal I was expecting!!

Just sit him down and tell him. Life is too short not to. Be kind and be honest but get it done asap.

hidingbehindsmile · 27/07/2015 07:52

Having been in similar position I can relate to your anxities about having the conversation. I waited nearly two years before having the serious talk (I had tried before but these were always brushed off). Neither of us had done anything wrong but we had become friends and in a routine because we had been together so long. I wanted more and realised we didnt want the same things in the near future. He initially told me we were fine, but I asked him to give it some serious thought- we had a couple of days space and much to my relief he shared that he agreed. We could have carried on, acting to everyone else like we were ok but its really important you are both happy in a relationship. I feel so much better now and we are still amicable. Follow your heart.

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