it has just dawned on me that living with MIL at dh's request, especially sleeping in the bedroom next to hers is sick.

[suzywong]

As you may or may not know we live with MIL. I have tried to square this in my head in all sorts of ways: it's the most cost effective way to live right now, it's what most families outside the western world do, it's only temporary til we build a (very small) wing of our own on the house, it's no hardship so just belt up and thank your lucky stars you have a roof over your head.

But ...it has dawned on me that DH has reverted to the emotional repetoire of a 12 year old since we have been here as far as our relationship is concerend and cultural norms aside, is it or is it not somewhat ewwwwwwwwwwwww to be content to sleep in a room adjacent to your mother's with your wife, not that there is ever anything other than sleeping going on in it.

Discuss

[nailpolish]

cant the small wing be for MIL suzy? then it would be cheaper and smaller to create

therefore quicker?

[oliveoil]

hey suze, you could move into the Olive house when we get there

ha, bet MIL seems nice now yes?

[boboggglimpopo]

You could withold all sexual favours till the Wong Wing is built. That may speed up the building process.

[suzywong]

cod, the major point of the exercise is to do the chinese extended family thing while living in a very very posh area which we couldn't afford to buy or rent a toilet in. And we are living in the wing as I don't want to turf MIL out of her house nor inherit her vile 1950s formica laden kitchen.

ANyway, that aside, is it or is it not ewwwww to have an adjacent bedroom, I mean I can't even break wind under my own duvet with out it being common knowledge.

Hello OO, when are you coming over

[marthamoo]

We had the bedroom above my parents for three years - that may be even more of a hindrance to a love-life than adjacent bedrooms, I think.

But it was different because we were just out of University and had no children - it's harder when you're a "grown up" and are used to being in your own place. I couldn't do it now.

Also I think it's easier if it's your parents - I would stick pins in my eyes before I'd live with dh's parents...

I think you have been remarkably saint-like and forbearing and you will get your rewards in heaven (I won't be there though - I'm going to hell with twiglett or possibly heck with hunker)

[nailpolish]

i quite like 50's style kitchens

[TheHighwayCod]

but oyu arent chinese

[boboggglimpopo]

Just ignore me wong. That's fine.

[suzywong]

I 'm not??????
Wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh get these pigtails off me and unbind my feet.NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!





hello moo
hello ggggggg

[nailpolish]

suzy go and book a goddamn hotel room

now!

[nailpolish]

for next satyurday

[suzywong]

ah but he does, dh does that is, it was the sheraton last time and he's taking me to Sydney for three nights next month. So really I mustn't grumble, but then again I must, and what better place to do it then here?

the kitchen has a formica coated pull-out chopping board with it's own handle concealed beneath a bench top.

[nailpolish]

im loving the chopping board

enjoy sydney xxx

[ameli]

wong wing thats great,yes i think it is deffo yuk to have to have to sleep next to mil. Reduces the chances of intimacy and the knowledge that the third person is always there..yuk.