FIL has disappeared

[MoosMa]

Dh's parents split up for a few months a couple of years ago but got back together as he promised to change (he's very selfish, arrogant, had never once apologised or admitted he's wrong etc etc). Over the last week MIL has been getting really fed up with him and has snapped at him a few times and has been round here talking to dh about him and mentioned leaving him.

Anyway, tonight I got a phone call from BIL while dh was out saying that FIL has been missing since last night. Dh has gone round to see his mum and to try to help but he isn't with the obvious people (he doesn't exactly have a lot of friends) so they are v worried.

Not really sure why I'm typing this, just need to get it out I think...

moosma, we hadsome very good family friends who this happened too and they got a huge amount of support from 'missing persons'.why not phone them for advice?

The odd thing is, he hasn't taken any money or anything else with him, he filled up with diesel first, feed the dog, then threw his house keys down saying he wouldn't need them anymore.

They spoken to the Police who are looking out for his car, but I don't suppose they're looking very hard. Don't you have to wait a certain amount of time before you can do the missing persons thing?

Sounds a bit dramatic to me. IMO, he's done this to worry everyone so that, when he does appear, he will be treated like the prodigal son and your MIL will feel guilty for having driven him away.

If he's such an *rse, why is everyone worried? He's taken his car, presumably has access to money (credit cards, bank card, etc.) and was not depressed or suicidal before he left. I suspect he's having a lovely time intending to turn up eventually to a hero's welcome.

He's appeared again now, turned up at dh's uncle's house but MIL isn't letting him come home just yet.

That's the thing Freckle, he didn't have any cards or money on him. Also we think he is depressed as he is very similar to how dh was when he was depressed in the summer this year. He'd never admit it though, but we think MIL will say he can come home if he gets help.

At least the worry has gone now, and she hasn't let him straight back so hopefully he'll realise that she means business!