Has anyone ever successfully managed to get their DH to slow down driving?

[countryandchickens]

I have quite severe motion sickness and it's uncomfortable for me when DH is driving as he goes too fast and takes bends too sharply.

Problem is, I am conscious no one likes a backseat driver.

How do you broach this in a way that doesn't sound like you're just nagging/whining?

I got out of the car and walked home, a long way. I don't drive but I refused to get back in the car again and actually started to enjoy life on foot. He didn't take me seriously at first but as the weeks past he became really unhappy, especially when I bought an expensive suitcase to take on the train for travelling. I remained cheerful and positive.

After 2 months he begged me to go in the car with him again, he was so miserable.

I gave him another chance, and it's much better now. He knows that one more incident of speeding or losing his temper with me, and it's no more car for me for ever. And he knows I mean it.

I also pointed out that if I never travelled in the car again, then it would be his personal property and financing it would not be coming out of our joint account. That was the clincher I think.

I should add, that we live in London and I have a free travel card for buses, trains and the tube. I don't need a car.

Yes, but like PP I meant it when I said I wouldn't get in the car ever again.

If your passenger is scared or uncomfortable you are being a fucking arse not to accommodate them.

fourflights you are a legend and my new hero

Why thank you Doris, I've never thought of myself as hero material.

The Police got dH to slow down when he went on a speed awareness course.

DrMobius, your post is really unhelpful. People with severe motion sickness, like the OP, can't 'adapt' to things that trigger their condition. Would you suggest that epileptics just 'adapt' to rapidly flashing lights? I suffer from bad motion sickness; it is not a case of adults being pathetic or whingy, it is a bloody awful experience that you can't control under certain circumstances, like going fast round corners. What you won't realise is that people with motion sickness will have been finding ways to cope with being in vehicles since they were tiny, but you can't stop certain things triggering it.

If person X is doing something (which isn't a brilliant idea in the first place) that triggers an illness in person Y, why is there even a discussion about person X continuing doing it? It's not like they have to do it, FFS. No-one should have to adapt to the unsafe and thoughtless choices of others.

OP, you need to ask your DH why he doesn't respect you enough to drive in ways that don't make you feel ill. Because that's what this is about - he knows it makes you ill and doesn't care, essentially. Make it clear to him that you know this.