To pull out of the "family holiday" in order to get some time away from DP?

[NicoT]

DP and I are due to get married in 9 months.

Lately we've argued A LOT and I'm starting to feel like we are not compatible.

An exampe being that we were meant to be planning a family camping trip down to cornwall where we'd all (his kids and mine, me and him also) would all have something to enjoy. He then changed this to a festival in the lakes. I'm not a massive fan of festivals (as he knows) and my kids are not into them at all. Both of my kids have said they don't want to go and to be honest, neither do I.

I did agree to it initially but now I'm thinking of cancelling and letting him go on his own with his kids. I would take my kids to a theme park instead which is something that they would actually enjoy.

But on top of this, I just feel like I want some time away from him. He complains at me constantly, takes everything I say the wrong way. Picks arguments (especially after a drink) and I'm sick of just going along with stuff to keep him sweet.

I'm actually looking forward to having the house to myself for a while - maybe to think things through.

Am I being a diva? I just can't face the thought of camping in a field, with him and his kids, being dragged to watch bands I've never heard of whilst my son sits bored and fed up on what is meant to be his holiday too.

Split up

Who would have thought. All the campsites alone in the UK,
and none have space for 2 pitches..

So anyway.. What are his redeeming qualities. Because at the moment seems like you are settling for the
First bloke that has come along..

I think he wants to split up but hasnt go the balls to do it. Hence the picking arguments, and when that didnt work, deliberately sabotaging the "family" holiday. The lack of interest sexually says that he has detached, it may or may not be because of someone else, I doubt it but I dont think it matters either way.

He wants you to dump him so that a) he hasnt actually got to grow a spine and do it himself and b) he can play the victim (probably believing it himself too).

Give him what he wants and get rid.