Or are my expectations too high?
DH and I are having problems (have done for a few years, seen relate, no further forward). But this latest one, I dont know if its my expectations too high or if he just doesnt think / is too selfish.
Earlier this week, our child injured themselves, and after many hours in A&E I was told to report back to the childrens ward the next morning ready for surgery (Nil by mouth etc).
DH at this point was an hours drive, short flight within the UK and a final hour and half drive away. When I called to let him know there was time to get to the airport and get a flight home to support us (I suffer anxiety amongst other mental health issues).
When we next spoke 2 hours later, it was apparent that not only was he not going to do this, but that he hadnt even considered it as an option but planned to return home the next evening after it was all over, as original plans.
He has form but not being there when I need his support and turning up afterwards or trying to go on a unimportant weeks business trip less than 12 hours after a beloved parent of mine has passed away (he didnt go in the end but only after I told him not to).
He is now saying he didnt think about coming home, because I specifically didnt ask him, which I did not, but assumed he may wish to be there to surport his child and didnt need to ask. He did not need to be on site the next morning before his flight.