In the past I'd say dh and I had similar sex drives although perhaps I've always been the one more willing to discuss different ideas and so on. We always used to have a great time together between the sheets. The relationship is still good- he's a great guy and I still fancy the pants off him and he says he does me too. But over the past 2/3 yrs since arrival of ds I've been less confident with myself and haven't been so confident with being the one to initiate sex. On a couple of occasions I've tried to initiate it and he's said he's just watching something on TV or has some office work to finish, so our sex life has gone v quiet (not so good waiting for bedtime as am exhausted by then!). I'm pretty sensitive these days and am quickly taking the rejection personally although he says it's not me but surely it should be a two way thing? It's just not a turn-on to always have to ask dh for sex. we have a great time when we DO get things started (which would be more often if I didn't feel so worried about being rejected by him) and when we've tried talking about it he says he loves being so close and so on but the evidence just doesn't show that- surely if he enjoyed it so much he'd occasionally be the one to ask/approach for it? We have a good relationship in other aspects but I'm so b**y frustrated! What does anyone suggest?