I've just LTB I was right wasn't i?

[Chillyegg]

Basically at my ils for eid . Earlier in the day dog had called me dumb for putting food on his plate wrong. It was awkward he's also been calling me names for a very long time. Any way he in his room he asks what's wrong, I say I feel tired and tearful. Had been up since 5:30 with the baby. I say I'm tired and teary but we'll talk about it later. He says why can't you just be happy for one day. I tell him to fuck of he screams and swears at me. Goes into the bathroom. I then pack my bags and tell him I'm leaving. He then follows me and screams at me says I'm a psycho etc. ( massive back story of him calling me loads of names) he tells me if I go to leave the baby. I tell him to duck that. He tells me to piss of and get out. I tell him I will. He then slaps me incredibly hard across the face. I leave
after he's gone terrified in a
taxi. He is now saying I'm the
worst person in the world that I'm every bitch under the sun because I left on eid. He
slapped me so I could see ssense . I'm apparently the selfish and bitch and just a
terrible person. And I'd
started the fight so I had
every intention to leave. This is all so jumbled but I'm devastated. My husband and best friend is an abusive twat

If you're in doubt, think of it as reporting to send a message to his wider family and the community that hitting people is not just to be soaked up in silence.

Thank you for the advice.
I will do this all in my own time. ATM I'm still in shock.

by assaulting you he is a danger to her. You really will regret not reporting it. What if he takes you to court for access, what if he keeps her and doesn't bring her back, claims you are a bad mother or whatever other horrid claims these abusers will make. You really need to report it and get it all on record. To protect you and her in the future.

Chilli - what a horrible man.
Well done for leaving. Make sure you take it easy today and be kind to yourself. Of course you're in shock.
The fact that he's making excuses and blaming you should be reason to know that at some point, if you go back, it will happen again.

Your plan sounds a good one, sleep on it and then reconsider whether you want to log this with the police.

Make a plan to make this permanent - he sounds absolutely awful. Do his family know what he did?

Have you eaten, Chilly ? It's surprisingly easy to forget to do it when you're all up and down emotionally.

I am really pleased you are out and the baby too.

Can I tell you as a woman who left her dh..It took me weeks to realise how abusive he was.. You don't see it when you are in it.

You do need to log this..Call 101. If you read this forum..The amount of men whose behaviour shocks their partners after they leave.

No one is suggesting at this point her has no contact...However if he starts calling you a bad mother in order to gain residency you will regret it. It is early days here for you.. It is not suprising you are in shock... Try and rest but do make the call to log it .

I'm being well looked after thank you . They know.
It's all a mess

It may feel like a mess at this moment but the smoke will clear. Right now you probably need some food and some sleep to help things.

Good luck.

I know I'm lucky I had a small stash if money somewhere to go and people and family to help me

I'm sorry you are having this in your life.
Please have some rest and look after yourself and your DD...

And Eid Mubarrak to you, your family and loved ones.

It's starts from name calling and then swearing... He ended up going further.
It's all wrong! And you are feeling weak just because you are hurt from everything he has done to you. It was long time coming!

When all will pass you will realise how lucky you are to escape from him.

Life is too short to have any kind of abuse... And just know he will never change!

Hugs

It is fairly normal for abuse to escalate over holidays. More time for contact and the abuser may feel that the victim is less likely to leave because it's special time.

You did really well in leaving regardless.

It's all a mess

Yes Chilli, but you did not cause this. You're amazing for walking out and you've done the right thing. It won't be easy but you really sound like you've got your head screwed on. I hope you manage to get some rest tonight.

Please report the assault. A history of domestic violence and emotional abuse could mean access to legal aid, for your divorce. A record with Police, GP, HV would be valuable.

As you are simply logging a report, rather than requiring action, I'd think it would be fine to leave the call for a day or two until you feel less wobbly. It does want doing, but now you're out of immediate danger it's not so urgent.

Wondering just how you can serve up food so badly that it deserves a slap across the face... not seeing it somehow.

@Annie

When someone stops appreciating the other in their life, everything would seem to cause an issue, everything is wrong, they don't know what they are doing and so on...

The food on the plate is just one of them. It just shows there is no respect.

And it's happened during Eid. He is not a nice person.

So true. It isn't really about food at all.

Yy as pp says you can call 101 and have the assault logged without need for the police to speak to him. No rush. When you are ready but it may help in future.

A history of domestic violence and emotional abuse could mean access to legal aid, for your divorce.
This is true and important.