anyone else any experience of picky eating?

[Calientejulia]

Hi

First, thanks for reading ! Background is I have been in a new relationship for around 8 months now (I'm in mid 40s, so is he - both long divorced) and I thought everything was rosy - then I cooked dinner.... It would appear the BF has kept his various food 'hates' well hidden up to now. He has offered to cook quite often -bit boring TBH, but put that down to lack of experience - but made a nice change after all this time. Then I offered to cook for a change... oh boy. One salmon fillet, new potatoes (cold, it was a salad) and salad stuff later I am very confused by his reaction. Turns out these are inedible in his book. All of it. And that's not all. When I told him he needed to come clean with me the list of 'non-foods' was immense. Basically if its not chicken (or pork), mash, carrots and beans - no fancy sauces - then its not going to get eaten !!! OMG. I have always made it clear I love to travel and part of that is trying new foods (I'll give most things a go); but now I understand why he has never travelled and why he suggested Italy for a first trip (turns out he could manage pizza as long as its something simple). He seems very unkeen to seek some professional help for this and I am really not sure if this is a deal breaker or not. Food is such a pleasure for me, and both my kids have grown up eating just about anything. Has anyone any experience of something similar ?

[Garlick]

It's interesting to read how this plays out in various other posters' relationships. I fail to see how any of those posts relate to julia's own situation. Unless you're all suggesting both she and her boyfriend alter big parts of their personalities to be more like you?

They could do that, I guess. But it seems a lot simpler for both of them to look for partners who are better matched.

[Garlick]

(But good luck with Italy anyway, julia!)

[MuffMuffTweetAndDave]

Which is pretty much what I said garlick, so don't be sighing as though you made some greatly incisive but terribly misunderstood point. You didn't.