I've been with my partner for two years, he is very affectionate and lovely and everything and treats me well, generally speaking. But latey I've been having some doubts.
A couple of months ago, he turned weird. He gave me no affection, he was always working overtime and playing music for someone or seeing his mates, basically there was always an excuse not to see me when usually he would go out of his way to do so. His correspondence came over texts when he was awol, but very direct, short messages few and far between, usually late at night telling me he was going to bed. He never called me. One time I called his parents house, where he still stays sometimes, as he told me he felt ill after work so was going to bed but when his mum answered she said he wasn't there and hadn't been there since work that morning. When I asked him about it he said he'd been to see his uncle.
Whenever he was here, he was distant, always on his phone talking to who he said was his workmates. He wasn't particularly secretive about it and didn't make any real attempt to hide his phone however I noticed he had changed the password on it as I knew the previous one and happened to see him unlocking his phone but the digits were now different. He didn't give me any affection at all and we barely had sex. I told him I wasn't okay with how he was acting and we should maybe call it a day. Then he changed overnight, started being the old him. Being loving and affectionate and seeing me as much as possible and texting and calling when he wasn't here.
I've been cheated on before. That partner became distant, always going out, glued to his phone 24/7 and was VERY protective over it. I did confront my current partner in the end and asked him outright. He said he was upset that I would think he would do something like that. I mentioned the password on his phone and he insisted on changing it back while I watched. I kind of shrugged it off, he has been cheated on in the past too, quite badly, and so I thought "well he's not going to cheat on me knowing how awful it feels."
Now, he has a Facebook. He doesn't really use it but he does go on it. I have tagged him in things such as pictures and statuses but he never accepts them. I tagged him in a photo of us and for weeks he never accepted them, his excuse being "I don't use Facebook." However his friends tagged him in a few photos and he accepted them straight away. And it came up on my newsfeed today that at 2am this morning, he had "friended" a couple of girls on there.
I know gut instinct/women's intuition is a powerful thing. But I'm torn. Half of me truly believes that I'm being paranoid because I've been here before and so find it hard to really fully trust someone and I'm overthinking every little thing in order to twist it in my mind to believe he is cheating. But the other half of me is wondering if maybe there is a reason my head is connecting all these dots. I don't know if I'm onto something or if I'm just being a crazy psycho?