am i being irrational.....

[myermay]

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I agree it's rotten manners not to phone you, in fact he should have asked if you minded.

I don't mind my DH having time out, and he's great when I want some, too. But we always ask each other beforehand so it's all arranged. He's taking you for granted and treating you like someone who doesn't matter. He's lucky you're cool about his taking time out, some wives wouldn't accept it at all.

I think he deserves a right bollocking, or, even better (tho' you prob. won't), just "conveniently" forget to come home next time you're on a night out & see how he likes it.

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Whereas if he'd arranged it with you in advance you'd have made plans yourself instead of spending all your time waiting for him.

That's all you wanted really, isn't it? A bit of common courtesy.

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No, you aren't being irrational. He'd have been bloody embarrassed if you'd waited up for him, got worried and called the cops, wouldn't he? Just basic manners to let you know that he won't be back.

Reminds me of a story Stephen King told on Desert Island Discs at the weekend. His father went out for a packet of cigarettes one day when SK was two and never came back. King said: 'It must have been an obscure brand'...