He makes me feel sick

[mrscrazyfrog]

I have been with my partner for around 8 months, we got together pretty soon after my last relationship broke up so maybe I was on the rebound so to speak.

Anyway things were great at first, he's funny, generous etc but recently I'm finding him very unnattractive, he's overweight, has a big pot belly (that looks very unmanly) stretch marks on his stomach and back, he walks quite camp and he has a tooth missing, well it was actually broken off years ago and where the stub is still there it's all black and manky looking. So he has this gap in his teeth, green eyes and ginger hair and because of the ginger hair he has very light eye brows and lashes making his eyes appear quite "large"...lately I noticed that he looks a little bit like the crazy frog. (googly green eyes, pot belly and tooth missing!).

I know it sounds quite mean to talk about someone like this and I know I'm no oil painting but its really effecting how I feel about him, everytime he pulls a daft face or tries to have a laugh I can't help staring at him and thinking about how ugly he is. .

Maybe I'm just looking for excuses to finish with him as I wasnt really ready for another relationship?

In other ways he's ok, very clumsy and dopey though which irritates me, he's always breaking my things accidently, he's clumsy with his words too, always embarrases me when we're out.

waht did oyu liek initially nit

He was funny, attentive, and looked after me. I was bored, lonely and bordering on being anorexic...perfect match.

See, this is what happens w/charliecat lets her male rats out of their cages!

It goes way beyond good housekeeping.

I won't ever even go out with somene I don't fancy again, i think there has to be some physical attraction.

Large, green eyes and a slinky walk as well, cod ... definitely a cat!

a big cock helps.

Does he have any good points then?
Has he cheated on you?
Does he love you?
Does he hit you or your children?
Does he take drugs or drink heavily?

No?

Then i think you are doing quite well....

Well I don't know about that Ladyof....

I personally would look for a higher threshold of minimum qualifying criteria than your list!

The point I was trying to make was there people in a much worse situation than someone with an ugly partner no?

I can't believe people are calling you shallow. He sounds pretty gross. That's presuming he's real and not, say, a hamster...

If you are for real, then I think you know that you need to finish things asap.

If you loved him, looks wouldnt matter. You could be with the ugliest person in the world. So, your obviously with the wrong person One of my ex's was horrid, one day I just looked at him and though "oh my word....what am I doing??" and he was gone. He was a pr*ck anyway, which started me off. Poor the poor bloke out of his misery PMSL @ the "ginger hair" poor bloke!

Describe yourself honestly and see what you come up with. Then maybe ask yourself what he sees in you. It could be an eye opening exercise for you, maybe you need to be honest with yourself as to what you really need in a man.

I can understand not being attracted to a person, but you are making yourself sound pretty shallow TBH. Do him a favour and leave him to someone a bit more generous than yourself.

It sounds like you're over this guy in a big way. Move on.

But don't tell him you think he's ugly, that would be cruel (and as someone has said, very shallow)...

WHat attracted you to this guy in the first place = was it his wallett, did that look more attractive than him. You've been with him for 8 months so there must be something attractive about him that you have stayed with him this long. BTW what do you look like. Its whats inside that matters, not the material on he outside. Maybe he should do you a favour and dump you.

sorry but this thread has given me an excellent early morning chuckle :

Shallow as it is Im sure MrsCF (if this is true) has probably just gone off him and is now seeing things she didnt before.

Just look at Robbie - if he wasnt sexy he would be an ugly craggy dog

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I doubt he changed miraculously over those 8 months. What did you see in him in the first place?

How would you feel if he described you how you've described him?

Agree, it's best for both of you if you end this relationship.

are you billie Piper

pmsl @ Yeahbut

'beauty is skin deep'? PAH

you say that but would you want a fat, hairy, toothless man humping you??

i doubt it!

there are more important things in a relationship than looks yes, but they do play a big factor,

and if you find your partner physically replusive, leave!!