Condoms didn't work for us, and i can't bear the thought of a more invasive contraception such as coil etc.
Well, I've been on the Pill for 2 years now but dp & i aren't even having sex. (Only 1 or 2 attempts.)
Number of reasons: A huge drop in confidence sexually (for both of us), one or other of us usually knackered (esp as we usually hit the sack rather late)/not in the mood/ill, a big drop in my libido in particular, basically feel stuck in a rut.
We have made a bit of an effort, we are generally very physically affectionate, cuddle on the sofa, lots of stroking etc in bed, have tried candle lit meals, taking a bath together etc, but just seem completely unable to take it to the next level.
Before I went on the Pill I remember I was generally pretty horny (having got over the childbirth/early months of motherhood etc) but we weren't "doing it" because of the contraception issue (having got pg accidentally before neither of us wanted to take any risks). I was gagging for it but now I'm just not bothered, apart from the fact that i wish we were iykwim.
He is an absolute angel, he doesn't put any pressure on me at all, doesn't complain about it etc. when we have talked about it he seems to feel identical to how I feel! (Lack of confidence being the biggie in his case.)
Anyway, so now it's been two years that I've been on the Pill i really want to come off it. I didn't want to go on it in the first place, and my blood pressure is higher than it should be, plus high blood pressure etc runs in my family and I know I should be careful about it. It seems like such a waste to put my health at risk when we're not actually getting anything out of it...
But, if I come off the Pill it'll make it even harder for us to actually make the leap into a sex life iykwim... And how do I broach this subject with dp? He might think it is the end of any hope of a sex life!