Please be gentle with me, it is my first time on this board.
I am 55 years old. I am in my 2nd marriage to a wonderful man who is being incredibly supportive through this crisis.
My parents are both still living and I have a sister who is 60 years old. I have never had a good relationship with my sister as we are so different. For example she never, ever wears make up but I do so she calls me shallow etc (not that I wear a lot but I do it to make myself feel good). Her husband died when he was only 48, which was tragic, and she has never had children. I have 2 children. My parents have never really had a relationship with my children because they are afraid of upsetting my sister. They never even send them a Christmas Card (though they do send some money). This year they didnt even send my son a birthday card or anything. I have really tried with my sister and sent her emails trying to make friends with her etc but she totally hates me. Her new partner says that it is because she thinks I am better looking than her WTF! My mother says I should understand and be sympathetic with her and let her be rude to me.
I got married 9 years ago and invited all 3 of them to the wedding and none of them spoke to anyone all day or night. It was so embarrassing! I was so hurt I can barely put it into words. They didnt even speak to the children!
Anyway, my father is now terminally ill and I have been going up to their house (in another town to where I live) 2 days a week and cleaning, keeping them company etc. I work full time too. My mother last week told me that she has never liked me and never liked spending time with me. I am so hurt I cannot explain. She is not senile and knew exactly what she was saying.
Does anyone have any tips how I can move on from this. I am still going up there but only once a week to see my father mainly. Sorry to go on.
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MsPoodleLover · 14/07/2015 13:33
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