Lying scoundrel?

[ponder]

Hello ,
What to do...?
DH went out last night to my friends birthday party, leaving me yet again to put the 2 DD's to bed etc. He didn't get in till 5am.
When he eventually gets up 12ish today i ask how party was, he mumbles something vague about the usual people being there, ok music...i think nothing of it untill i meet my friend whilst out for walk, and inquire how party was, ask if DH got drunk as he's in a grim mood... she said that he wasn't there and she was there all night.
What am i supposed to think? Not sure how to confront him about it. There have been trust issues in the past but nothing for a long time. Feeling really uneasy.
Any comments appreciated.

Well, the liar part's true at least.

I had a boyfriend one time who was separated when we met, but got back together w/his wife.

I didn't know it for about a month.

He made up excuses to get up and leave my place after sex in the night - he was a physician, so it was easy for him to make up things.

No telling what he told his wife.

Sorry, but he stayed out ALL NIGHT and then lied about where he was.

Hmmm...twat detector beeping madly...

I think you need to confront him ponder.

what i think it so twatty is that he went to my friends party and expected me not to find out he wasnt there!

twatty AND dim

sorry ponder

Sorry to be direct but if he is having an affair, he wants you to find out.

Dim indeed! i am the mistress of ferretingf out a lier, and he knows it.
sorry cant spell!

well yes, if he is seeing someone else, which i doubt, but you never know, he is trying to make me find out.
the past trust issued were drug related, and if that is the cause of his all night outing, then all i can do is leave him to it, minus me and the girls. he knows that and so it is up to him

Yes drugs may make him use a stupid lie like that.

i think you need to be clever about this and meet him at his level dont shout or argue be calm and go out with friends and see how he likes it turn the tables and take control once he realises you have a life he'll either calm down or go which ever happens its for the best lifes too short to have this kind of stress think about your bambino tell him you saw your friend and she told you alll anbout the aprty don't ment that he was not their he'll know you know and leave the ball in his court we women are strong and its the men who need us more honest try it if it does not work sorry .................

sorry about typing god i must be tired or stupid

sorry about typing god i must be tired or stupid sorry missed your last comment drugs might be the isue if so your better off without him its harsh but i've been there just be strong

i will just ask him i think." where werte you last night? you werern't at the party."
then i'm not playing any games, which i hate.

if he isn't able to tell me a believable answer then thats when things get complicated.

here's hoping he just went to ... where..?

Lying... yes, definitely
Scoundrel... probably