Partner said

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I have "a fucking horrible miserable face like your mothers"
Then "well it is ugly" and then when I told him to piss off "Atleast I wont have to fucking look at it anymore"
I don't know what to do. I just keep trying not to think about it and end up crying.
Hes said other stuff about my looks before as a "joke" e.g I have a witches chin.
He knows how insecure I am, the other day we were shopping trying to find something nice to wear out and I ended up crying because every thing I tried on looked awful. Maybe I am a bit mental but I'm sobut upset about this. He said it on an argument not randomly butand admittedly I do kind of have "bitchy resting face" :/

tell him to fuck off and find a 17yo

you need a real man

So what though!

You're not obliged to be cheerful for other people's convenience. You weren't put on the earth to decorate it.

If you're boiling the kettle or making fish fingers for your toddler then you're perfectly entitled to have a pouty resting face. That is your absolute prerogative.

I bet, if you were with somebody who made you feel valued and interesting, your resting face would suddenly show a lot more contentment.

I used to have such a deep vertical line on my forehead. I frowned for about 8 years when I was with my x. After 8 years on my own, that deep groove has gone. there's still a line! but that's ok, it's not the trench it was when I was with my x.

You know you need to get rid of him, don't you? You know he's not going to change, and you will become more and more insecure. In five years time he'll still be telling you you're ugly and too old. His nasty behaviour will be impacting on your child too.

Better to cut your losses now and leave him.

Well that's what I'm scared of, at the moment it upsets me a lot but I can cope with it because some of the things he says are stupid, I know 24 isnt old but if he says stuff like that when I am actually getting old its going to hurt a lot, I just don't know if I can trust him to be supportive of me ever.
I know he isn't a nasty person though but I do think he has some kind of issues cause of his past but so what. His whole family are deranged in my opinion that's where he gets it from. E.g I had a termination and days later his mother, who I didn't even tell about any of it is phoning me and shouting random shit at me and saying I'm a danger to my boyfriend and son (!!?? She just doesn't like me, because I wouldn't take DS when he was a newborn cause she wmokes 40-60 a day and won't go outside. So now she just tells everyone my business and is generally a dick) she's like that to him too so I think he thinks its normal

Wow! Just wow! Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction, because you are not going to be able to turn this prick into a decent human being, nor is it your job to do so.

Yes. Get away frome this disgusting man and family. Do u want your ds growing up hearing this pathetic excuse of a human being verbally abusive to his mum etc.

1- please make sure you are using very good contraception until you are in a good stable secure relationship with a nice person

2- leave the guy, you are still young, it's really not worthed

You're falling in to the trap of making excuses for him. ''his whole family is deranged and that's where he gets it from''. Don't feel sorry for him. And I'm sorry, but it is nasty what he's doing. He is trying to make a young woman feel old. Trying to imply that your value is linked only to your youth, and that that's passing. Insulting your looks! Why???? So that you'll feel shit about yourself. And what will happen if you feel shit about yourself? You'll stay no matter how badly he treats you.. All his needs will be met, none of yours will be met. That would suit him well. It would suit him a lot better than you realising that you're still only 24, in two years your child will be at school for most of the day and the World will be your oyster again. Make sure you don't get pregnant again.