I need you guys....heartbroken beyond repair.

[Lukat]

So he finally dumps me...I'm broken.
totally and utterly broken
how can I make it easier for me and my girls.

Anybody who can't stick by you while your only having a wobble, won't stick by you through the really rough times...and isn't worth having in your life.

At 7 months in you were only still in the honeymoon phase, and sometimes when things end early on while still in this phase it can leave you feeling bereft. You are missing all of the good points because you weren't together long enough to see much of the bad. If this is how he leaves you, when you are struggling and things relationship wise were relatively good...you really are better off without him because he'd never really be there for you in your hour of need.

Hold your head high and be strong for you and your girls. It will be hard, but time does make it easier.

I got a romantic valentines and birthday card before my husband dropped his bombshell.

It's totally bewildering isn't it?

I suspect part of the pain you are feeling is guilt because of letting someone who has hurt you so much get close to your girls. But of course you weren't to know that.

As others have advised take real good care of yourself. Eat healthy foods, good nutrition. Soups are good if you can't face much else. Don't over use alcohol. Too much is a depressant. Try to get out in the sunshine for a walk. Delete his number and go n/c . It really is the quickest way to heal. Otherwise it's like pick picking at a scab.

Also lean on friends and family for some support.

Be there for the girls. It might mean fake it till you make it. So sorry.

Sorry for the absence today....I'm really struggling. I take on board what you are all saying.....its the actual physical pain that's hurting me.
why did he say he loved me when he clearly didn't. ..why do they do that?

Lukat

It's the games people play... they say certain things because they believe it will ensure they get what they want or because they don't want to hurt the feelings of others. Or it could be he's one of those who mean what they say at the time but whose feelings can change from minute to minute/day to day.

In any event, although it hurts, you are best off without this man as he was not prepared to commit to you and your pain would have been greater if he'd strung you along for months/years.

missqwerty... totally agree about Claire Weekes, some people seem to think she is a little old fashioned but she saved me when I had bad anxiety a few years ago, can't recommend her enough

I've had some horrendous times with men doing this. One time I felt beyond coping with life. I phoned the Samaritans as along with everything else and a young child I was in despair. They were absolutely amazing. Keeping going for my child saved me too. Life will get better again.